FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
Mon, 20 August 2012
“The hardest thing in life is knowing which bridge to cross and which one to burn.”
I read that quote this morning and I thought to myself ‘WOW! That’s so true’. Each and every one of us strives for happiness, but do we ever really reach the point where we are satisfied with what we have? There are so many choices that we face on a daily basis - how do we re-assure ourselves that we’ve made the right ones? How do we even go about making those decisions to begin with?
I think that making the right decision and taking the right path is based largely on how well you know yourself and on how selfish you are prepared to be during your quest for happiness. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t consider others – of course you need to take them into account – but your decision at the end of the day, needs to be something that you are doing for yourself, and not to make someone else happy.
Fear can be a major factor standing in the way of you making a decision - fear of being alone, fear of losing someone, fear of the unknown and fear of taking risks. We’ve all experienced deep-seated fear at one point or another in our lives - it’s just the way in which we chose to deal with it that made all the difference.
My biggest struggle in life is self-doubt. It doesn’t matter how big or small the decision, I always doubt my capability to make the right one. I feel like I need someone to help me or to guide me in the right direction so that I don’t make a mistake – almost like a small child, looking to a parent for guidance.
Why am I so afraid? I am probably more than capable of making the decision myself, but if I make it alone and it doesn’t work out, there’s nobody to blame but myself - and that would open up a whole new array of insecurities that I would be forced to address. At the end of the day though, they are my issues to address – if I don’t start making decisions for myself, before I know what’s happened, I will have missed out on so many opportunities – so many doors which were open for me, would long since have shut.
As a result of our insecurities, we live and love in fear – always holding back and never really allowing ourselves to fully enjoy anything.
Life is complicated as it is, why do we choose to make it so much harder on ourselves than it needs to be? So step it up a notch – work on that self confidence! And if that’s the department in which you are lacking, learn to ‘fake it till you make it’.