previous polls 29 Apr 2013 If Joburg Pride finally gets off the ground this year, where would you want to see it happen? Total Votes: 177 The usual: Rosebank & Zoo Lake.  29% In the city’s Newtown district.  18% Sandton would be awesome.  10% Soweto, where it’s most needed.  7% It’s time it went east, to Boksburg.  5% Melville, Parkhurst or Greenside.  14% I don’t care. I don't do Pride.  19% 06 Mar 2013 How would you describe your coming out experience with people in your life? Total Votes: 229 Amazing. It was met with love and acceptance.  13% Pretty good. Most people dealt with it well.  41% A mixed bag. I experienced some negativity.  18% Awful, but things ended up turning out well.  7% Terrible. It was traumatic and is still awful.  5% I haven't come out yet.  17% 21 Jan 2013 Are we youth obsessed? What do you think of gay older men within the community and in your social circle? Total Votes: 259 I don't want to be around them.  9% I love older men as friends.  10% I prefer older men as lovers.  12% Age makes no difference to me.  35% I’m older and my life is great.  25% I'm an older guy and I'm left out.  8% 20 Dec 2012 We're facing a brand new year with new possibilities and new challenges. How do you feel about 2013? Total Votes: 100 Can't wait! I have big plans for the year.  28% I’m optimistic. Things should be better.  37% Agg... It'll just be more of the same thing.  19% It can't be worse than 2012 - rock bottom.  9% Scared. I think it's gonna be a terrible year!  7% 04 Nov 2012 At Mamba we're all about being proudly gay, but how much does being gay define who you are? Total Votes: 260 Totally! I'm actually gay first, human second!  3% A hell of a lot. I think I live a pretty gay life.  15% Partially, but it doesn't dominate my identity.  48% Not much. I simply just lust after and love men.  31% Not at all. I stay far away from all things gay.  3% 09 Oct 2012 How do you feel about the 1 in 9 campaign's "disruption" of the recent Joburg Pride Parade? Total Votes: 180 Very necessary. Pride has become a big party while LGBT people are killed.  19% Fantastic! It's a pity that the Joburg Pride organisers responded so badly.  23% I'm unsure. Despite the violence, it has gotten their message out there.  5% Not happy. I agree with their message but not their aggressive methods.  16% Appalling. They should have worked with Pride to make it part of the march.  22% Disgusted. It's created division among us, rather than helping LGBT victims.  16% 26 Sep 2012 It’s Pride season in various parts of the country, but do you believe Pride is still relevant? Total Votes: 118 Of course, as long as gays & lesbians are being discriminated against!  31% Yes, but today it’s more of a celebration of our diversity & fabulousness.  22% It should be, but Pride is now just about partying & getting trashed.  25% For some people, maybe, but it's not really relevant to my life at all.  6% Not really. It's actually embarrassing & creates a negative view of gays.  16% 23 Jul 2012 Are you getting it on, and how often? How would you rate your sex life? Total Votes: 337 It's out of control. I'm actually worried.  6% Better than ever. I'm in sex heaven!  7% Pretty good. I have no complaints.  14% It's okay, but it could be better.  20% Pretty kak. Things need to change.  17% What sex life? I'm not getting any!  37% 19 Jun 2012 Are you going to see Mother Monster (i.e. Lady Gaga) perform live when she comes to South Africa in November? Total Votes: 253 Hell, of course! I already have my tickets!  43% Sure. I'll be buying tickets very soon.  6% I'd like to go but can't afford the price.  10% I planned to but gave up queuing online.  5% I'm not a fan but if I get given tickets...  6% I'll give it a skip, I don't like her music.  8% Nah, I'll wait for the real Madonna to come.  15% Never, she's the daughter of Satan himself!  8% 22 May 2012 South Africa has been caught up in The Spear controversy. Do you think art should ever be censored? Total Votes: 144 No. Freedom of speech & expression is absolute.  65% Yes, but only if the art incites people to be violent.  6% Yes. If it contains hate speech against a group.  13% Perhaps. If it threatens to racially divide the country.  7% Yes, if it is really pornographic and obscene.  5% Hmmm. Beats me. Let the courts decide.  5% 25 Apr 2012 What do you feel about the demolition of Bronx nightclub in Cape Town? Total Votes: 139 Very sad. I had great times there.  37% Nostalgic. But it's time to move on.  19% Who cares. It wasn't that great.  6% Happy. It was a dirty, dingy hole.  14% Nothing. I never went there.  23% 03 Mar 2012 How do you feel when someone you know is coming out the closet? Total Votes: 229 Bored. I've done that, got the t-shirt already.  5% Annoyed. Stop whining and get through it already!  8% Concerned. I remember how tough it was for me.  17% Helpful. I try my best to help him through it.  55% Excited! It's an opportunity to get into his pants.  15% 31 Jan 2012 It's the month of Cupid, red roses and lurve. How do you feel about Valentine's Day? Total Votes: 154 Whoop! Can't wait to be spoiled rotten by my man!  5% Stressed. I don't know what to plan for my bf.  6% Nervous. I'm planning to tell my crush how I feel.  1% Depressed. I don't have a man in my life right now.  21% Bah, who cares. It's a tacky moneymaking racket!  66% 06 Dec 2011 The start of a New Year is always ripe with the possibility of change. What do you hope 2012 will bring you? Total Votes: 302 A better and higher-paying job.  12% A relationship that makes me happy.  36% More time at the gym to get buff.  7% The courage to come out the closet.  3% A bigger house and sexier car.  2% More 'me' time to enjoy my life.  12% A new, more rewarding career.  13% More travel than in the last year.  9% I wouldn't change anything at all.  7% 30 Oct 2011 Do you think that African countries that have anti-gay laws should have their funding from Western countries cut or suspended? Total Votes: 239 Yes, anti-gay countries should not be supported.  69% sure, this could force them to change their laws.  15% I'm not sure, will it really makes thing any better?  6% No, it will lead to a backlash against gay people.  5% No, the cuts will also affect poor gays in those countries.  5% 21 Sep 2011 Do you think that cruising dating sites for hook-ups in South Africa is dangerous? Total Votes: 260 Yes, I have been a victim myself.  7% Yip, I’ve heard a few scary stories.  20% Not really, just use common sense.  56% Nah, its only if you’re very unlucky.  4% I’ve never had or heard of problems.  5% Dunno, I prefer not to use dating sites.  9% 06 Sep 2011 Do you think that gay guys are often unnecessarily bitchy, nasty and judgmental about other people? Total Votes: 161 Yip, sadly we project way too much negativity.  41% Yes, but it's thankfully just a minority of us.  30% At times, it's a sign that we're damaged people.  12% Sure, but I love that bitchy gay attitude and vibe.  6% No, this is a stereotype and unfair generalisation.  11% 08 Aug 2011 With Malema's nationalisation plans, riots in London and the world's economy going down the tube - are you worried about the future? Total Votes: 214 Yes, it's the end of society as we know it.  20% Just a little - I am getting a tad nervous.  29% Of course, but it will always sort itself out.  24% Nah, its life - there's always some crisis.  26% Dunno. I don't really follow the news.  1% 20 Jul 2011 The new Locnville single, 'Stars Above You', has been rejected by 5FM because "it's not good enough". You think... Total Votes: 152 I agree. It's an embarrassment.  32% It's not great, but they play worse.  22% I like it. Great club track.  8% It's fantastic - sheer genius!  4% Dunno, I haven’t heard it.  28% Huh, who or what is Locnville?  7% 02 Jul 2011 Were you ever bullied at school for being gay? Total Votes: 153 Yes, throughout my school career.  29% Yes, but just a few times.  29% Only once, and never again.  4% No, never experienced it.  27% Yes, but not because of being gay.  12% 09 Jun 2011 What do you think about Lady Gaga's support of the gay and lesbian community? Total Votes: 133 She's committed at any cost. It's a genuine and honest belief.  65% Great, but it'll only last as long as it doesn't harm her career.  11% It's an obvious ploy to create controversy and sell more CDs.  11% Her intentions aren't important, the results are still good.  14% 19 May 2011 May is International Masturbation Month! So spill the beans and tell us how often you spank the monkey… Total Votes: 270 More than twice a day.  12% About once a day.  33% A couple of times a week.  40% Around once a week.  8% Every couple of weeks.  3% About once a month.  3% Every few months or so.  1% Never. I don't do it!  1% 09 May 2011 What should be done about the horrific 'corrective rape' crisis? Total Votes: 74 Harsh Hate Crime laws must be enacted by Parliament.  64% President Jacob Zuma should make a public statement.  8% There should be a national LGBT tolerance campaign.  7% Lesbians should start neighbourhood protection groups.  3% Young school kids must be taught about LGBT equality.  19% 14 Apr 2011 Which international pop artist would you most like to see perform live in South Africa’s? Total Votes: 284 Britney Spears  4% Lady Gaga  33% Adele  16% Rihanna  5% Katy Perry  1% Mariah Carey  3% Madonna  26% George Michael  6% Kylie Minogue  7% 14 Mar 2011 With more and more sportsmen around the world coming out the closet, do you think any Springbok rugby or Bafana Bafana players will do the same soon? Total Votes: 286 Sure. It will happen any day now.  9% Probably not, but I really hope so.  26% Someday - we're still behind the world.  15% Never. SA sport is too conservative.  33% I don’t think we have any gay players.  4% I don't really care about sports.  12% 16 Feb 2011 Do you think South Africa has a chance of winning the bid to host Mr Gay World 2012 in our country? Total Votes: 260 Definitely, we are Africa's gay capital!  49% Hope so - I'm definitely holding thumbs!  16% Probably, but I’m not a fan of pageants.  10% Nahh. Our gay community is too small.  3% Dunno - I don't care either way.  22% 20 Jan 2011 Do you know what PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis) is and have you / will you ever use it? Total Votes: 196 Sure, I know about it, but I haven’t used it.  15% Yep, but I intend to never need it in my life.  19% Yes, I do - I’ve made use of it at least once.  8% I’ve actually had to use PEP a few times.  2% Huh? I have no idea what PEP is.  56% 30 Nov 2010 How concerned are you about getting infected with HIV? Total Votes: 397 Very much. I always have safe sex.  44% A lot. I usually have safe sex.  25% It worries me, but I often slip up.  11% Not too much. It can be treated today.  3% I'm involved so I’m not worried.  15% I'm not. HIV/AIDS is a myth.  2% 16 Nov 2010 How old were you when you came out the closet? Total Votes: 328 Under 15 years  5% Between 15 and 17  7% Between 18 and 21  30% Between 22 and 25  22% Between 26 and 30  15% Between 31 and 35  7% Between 36 and 40  2% Between 41 and 50  1% Older than 50  0% I’m not out yet  12% 13 Oct 2010 Do you prefer to club in a gay male only environment or share the fun with lesbians? Total Votes: 354 I don't feel comfortable partying with girls around.  18% I'm happy to mix as long as there are more boys.  34% A mixed environment is awesome - it's much more fun!  25% Love the girls - we're all part of the LGBT community!  19% I'm unsure - I don't really know many lesbians.  3% 27 Sep 2010 With Joburg Pride coming up, which is the most pressing issue facing the LGBT community in South Africa? Total Votes: 208 Racism in the gay nightclub scene.  9% Violence against lesbians in townships.  15% Growing conservatism in government.  20% The assault on LGBT rights in Africa.  21% Everyday discrimination against us.  11% They way we're stereotyped by the media.  9% HIV /Aids among gay and bisexual men.  9% Nothing really. Life is pretty good.  7% 21 Aug 2010 What’s your opinion? Should Joburg Pride or Cape Town Pride put on “Official After Parties”? Total Votes: 324 Yes! it’s a fun way to raise money for Pride.  41% Yip - it’s the only party for all in the community.  7% Sure, as long as it is professionally organised.  18% Yeah, the more choices the better for all of us.  6% Nah. They tend to be very badly organised.  6% No. I want to go my usual hangout or party.  5% Nope. Parties are not Pride’s core business.  19% 27 Jul 2010 Do you have an open relationship with your partner? Total Votes: 284 Yes, it’s the only way that a gay male relationship can work.  14% Only if both of us are involved in that kind of scenario.  13% Nope, but I wouldn’t mind at all if it was open.  12% No. We are happily monogamous and it works for us.  20% Never. Open relationships are not real relationships.  40% 08 Jul 2010 Has online dating ever worked for you? Total Votes: 230 Yes. I met my current boyfriend online.  24% Sure. I met most of my exes online.  7% Only for hooking up, not relationships.  19% Sometimes. I've met a couple of good guys.  16% Nah. I've only met freaks and weirdoes.  28% Don't know. I've never tried it.  5% 25 Jun 2010 When it comes to hot foreigners visiting our shores, has the World Cup delivered? Total Votes: 163 Oh yes indeed! I've even gotten lucky!  17% Yip. I've met some at gay night spots.  2% I've only spotted a few out and about.  46% Not really. They're not very hot at all.  20% No. I haven't noticed any tourists.  15% 02 Jun 2010 Are you comfortable showing affection with your boyfriend in public? Total Votes: 254 Yes, we do it often and openly.  19% Sometimes, in gay friendly spaces.  48% Only at gay venues and events.  22% Never. Only in private at home.  11% 11 May 2010 Believe it or not, May is International Masturbation Month! You think: Total Votes: 271 Awesome. I’ll be celebrating every day - as often as I can!  28% Great. It helps break social taboos about something natural.  18% So what, for me EVERY month is Masturbation Month! LOL  30% It disturbs me. Masturbation is a very private thing.  0% That's just plain silly - what the hell is the point?  23% 25 Apr 2010 The 10th Pink Loerie Mardi Gras in Knysna this week is likely to be the last ever. You think... Total Votes: 145 Oh no! I go regularly and will miss it!  14% I haven't been, but it's not good news.  64% I went once or twice. It's no big deal.  8% Bah! It's been going downhill for years.  14% 07 Apr 2010 Do you think sexual addiction is real or just an excuse for bad behaviour? Total Votes: 252 It's genuine. I suffer from it myself!  23% It's probably real for many people.  28% Possibly, but most people abuse it.  15% Please! It's all about self control.  18% Just take responsibility for your actions!  12% I don't really know to be honest...  3% 16 Mar 2010 What are your feelings about the World Cup Kick-Off Celebration Concert, featuring Shakira, Alicia Keys and Black Eyed Peas? Total Votes: 259 Yay! The line-up is really fantastic!  15% Great, but prices (from R450) are high.  27% I won't go because it's in Soweto.  41% There should be more international artists.  5% I don't do concerts, I'll watch on TV.  12% Can't wait. I've already bought tickets!  1% 18 Feb 2010 Are you involved? How did you get to meet your partner? Total Votes: 340 At a gay bar or club  23% At a straight bar or club  0% On a dating site / chat room  36% At work / business contact  5% At gym or playing sport  3% Steamroom / sex club  6% Through a community group  2% At Pride / gay event  1% Through mutual friends  18% At a house party  3% He's a friend's ex  3% None of the above  0% 27 Jan 2010 Which local or international gay event would you most like to attend in 2010? Total Votes: 304 Cape Town Pride Fest  9% Mr Gay World (Oslo)  5% Sydney Mardi Gras  12% Pink Loerie Mardi Gras  5% New York City Pride  10% Cologne Gay Games  4% Amsterdam Gay Pride  10% Joburg Pride Festival  21% San Francisco Leather Pride  5% Rio Gay Pride  20% 14 Jan 2010 What is your main New Year’s resolution that you’ve made for 2010? Total Votes: 176 To cut down on smoking, drinking, drugs etc...  6% To find myself a man and settle down.  15% To focus more on my work and career.  13% To make much more money than before.  9% To get my body gym-toned and buff.  19% To enjoy life and have much more fun.  19% What’s the point? I’ve already broken them.  2% None. I don’t believe in resolutions.  18% 10 Dec 2009 Yay, it's the silly season! What are your holiday plans for this summer? Total Votes: 308 Bah! Humbug! I'm working through it all.  22% I'll be on leave but will spend it at home.  39% I'll take a few days off in the bush.  6% I'm off to KZN coast for a beach holiday.  7% It's glitzy Cape Town for me this season.  15% I'm a jetsetter. I'll be holidaying abroad.  10% 23 Nov 2009 The end of the year is mere weeks away. So how do you feel about 2009? Total Votes: 317 It was the best year of my life!  8% It was a pretty good year for me.  19% Not bad, but could have been better.  21% Ehh... No different from other years.  11% It was pretty bad. Bring on 2010!  22% 2009 was the worst year of my life!  19% 09 Nov 2009 It's time to once again decide on the best homo hangout of 2009. Your choice is: Total Votes: 810 Amsterdam (CT)  2% Aqua Bar (PE)  0% Bronx / Navigaytion (CT)  3% Crew Bar (CT)  16% Detour (PTA)  2% Legends (PTA)  44% The Lounge (DBN)  1% QC Parties (JHB)  4% Ramp Divas (JHB)  14% Risqué Lounge (JHB)  12% Simply Blue (JHB)  1% V2 Parties (JHB)  0% 27 Oct 2009 When was the last time you smooched a girl? Total Votes: 274 Recently. I’m bisexual.  7% Recently. I’m still in the closet.  0% The other day. I did it for fun.  4% Not too long ago. I was drunk.  8% Not since I came out ages ago.  29% When I was in high school.  20% I’ve never kissed a girl like that!  31% 07 Oct 2009 Which international superstars would you most like to see do a duet together? Total Votes: 246 Madonna and Lady Gaga  23% Britney and Janet Jackson  7% George Michael and Mika  36% Mariah and Christina Aguilera  4% Kanye West and Taylor Swift  6% Gwen Stefani and Shakira  4% Robbie Williams and Prince  5% Beyoncé and Rihanna  16% 22 Sep 2009 What do you think about the recently announced theme for the upcoming MCQP mega-costume party in Cape Town: The Toolbox? Total Votes: 155 I love it. My creative juices are flowing!  6% It’s pretty cool. One of the better themes.  9% I like very much - I just wish I could attend.  26% It’s good, but the theme is what you make it.  12% Not bad, but they could have done better.  6% It’s really boring. I’ll give this one a skip.  19% Huh, what the hell is this MCQP you speak of?  21% 11 Sep 2009 What is the most unusual place that you've gotten frisky in? Total Votes: 251 In an airplane or car.  8% In a public park.  8% In your parent's bed.  3% In an elevator.  3% In a pool or Jacuzzi.  4% In a gay club's dark room.  5% In public toilets.  6% In the gym steam room.  4% Almost all of the above!  52% I stick to the bedroom.  7% 31 Aug 2009 Sex, gender and race: how do you think that the Caster Semenya issue has been handled? Total Votes: 179 Badly. She was stripped of her dignity.  66% Terribly. It was made worse by racism.  13% Well, it got us talking about the issue.  8% Actually, as well as it could have been.  2% Fine. It’s the media that caused all the fuss.  11% 16 Aug 2009 Are you interested in knowing if a celebrity is gay or don't you care? Total Votes: 250 Of course, especially if he is hot!  36% Yes, it’ll make me a bigger fan.  9% Sure, out celebs are role models.  27% I dunno. It depends who it is.  3% Only if they've been homophobic.  4% I’m only interested in their work.  2% Nope, it’s none of my business.  19% 29 Jul 2009 Would you ever consider appearing in an adult film? Total Votes: 298 I’d do it for free! It's a huge fantasy of mine.  19% Maybe. As long as my parents didn't know.  8% Only if I was offered a massive sum of money.  16% Yes, but I'm sadly not porn star material.  26% No. I'm too scared of not being able to perform.  4% Never! Sex is something I do in private.  15% I prefer to star in my own home-made movies!  12% 21 Jul 2009 Has the increasing crackdown on drunk driving through roadblocks affected your social life? Total Votes: 121 Definitely, I don't go out as much as I used to.  17% I'm still going out, but I don't drink so much.  21% I now make a plan to have a sober person drive.  19% I'm more paranoid, but I'm still driving drunk.  7% I have no worries, I know roadblock-free routes.  4% I just make sure I have enough cash for a bribe.  3% I haven't noticed any crackdown on drunk driving!  29% 12 Jul 2009 How comfortable are you with showing affection in public with your partner? Total Votes: 204 Very much. We openly kiss in public.  15% Quite. We hold hands all the time.  15% Only in gay or gay friendly spaces.  45% Not very. Most people won’t accept it.  12% Not at all. All PDAs are just plain tacky.  13% 26 Jun 2009 What do you think the world will remember about Michael Jackson in years to come? Total Votes: 242 His classic songs, albums and videos.  70% His bizarre quirks and wacky behaviour.  11% His child sex abuse scandals and trial.  11% His impressive self-promotion strategies.  2% Nothing. He will soon be forgotten.  6% 21 Jun 2009 A new report claims that 1 in 4 South African men have raped a woman or man. Why are our men so prone to sexual violence? Total Votes: 103 It's due to our dehumanising racial history.  2% Our family structures have broken down.  15% Our men are taught to see women as objects.  13% Traditional cultural values are anti-women.  43% South Africans are simply just born violent.  4% I have no idea, but it makes me angry.  24% 14 Jun 2009 Are you excited about the Confederations Cup, now on in South Africa? Total Votes: 97 Yip. I have tickets to some matches.  8% Yes. I’ll be watching on television.  13% Nah, but it’s good for the country.  49% No. I hate all the fuss over sport.  16% I don’t know anything about it.  12% 06 Jun 2009 Is Facebook still as much fun as it used to be? Total Votes: 163 Absolutely. I’m still obsessed with it!  6% Sure. It’s part of my daily social life.  34% I still use it, but not like I did before.  25% I mainly use it as a business tool.  2% Not really. I only very rarely log on.  13% To be honest, I just don’t have time.  10% Boring! I deactivated my profile.  9% 28 May 2009 Should Helen Zille feel insulted by being called a lesbian by her critics? Total Votes: 134 Huh? I always thought she was a lesbian!  7% No! She should be so lucky to be a lady-lover.  10% Nope, unless she is as immature as her foes.  69% Nah, but her husband may not be impressed.  7% Yes! I wouldn't like to be called "straight." Ugh!  3% Okay, who is this Helen Zille person?  4% 21 May 2009 Do you think Adam Lambert deserved to have won American Idol? Total Votes: 121 Yes! He lost because he’s gay.  36% Yip, but he’s too OTT for the USA.  17% Maybe, but Kris Allen is as good.  13% No. I think Kris deserved to win.  6% Dunno. I don’t watch the show.  27% 14 May 2009 Cough, cough! Are you worried about the dreaded Swine Flu pandemic that is threatening to sweep the globe? Total Votes: 130 Yes, it could be a global disaster!  5% A little. I’m watching the headlines.  27% Not really. It’ll probably blow over.  29% Absolutely not. It’s just media hysteria.  36% Huh, what the hell is Swine Flu?  2% 03 May 2009 Which gay publications do you read most often? Total Votes: 185 The long-running Exit.  16% The glossy Gay Pages.  15% Wrapped lifestyle mag.  6% Cape Town's Pink Tongue.  6% I prefer overseas mags.  9% None. I only do websites.  24% I only visit Mambaonline.  24% 23 Apr 2009 You stood in the queues and voted. Now, how do you feel about the results of the elections? Total Votes: 200 Horrified! Zuma will be our president.  28% Disappointed. I was hoping for change.  30% Not surprised. I didn’t expect much.  19% I’m generally happy with the results.  19% Ecstatic! Zuma will be our president!  3% Huh, election? What election?  3% 15 Apr 2009 Will you be voting in this year’s general elections? Total Votes: 181 Yes. It’s the only way to ensure change.  83% Sure. I’ll be supporting the government.  2% Probably – if I can decide who to vote for.  1% Dunno. It depends if I have the time.  1% No. There is no one worth voting for.  6% Nah. I didn’t get around to registering.  4% No way. I’ll be enjoying my day off.  1% Nope. I’m too young to vote.  2% 07 Apr 2009 Now that criminal charges have been dropped, how do you feel about a possible Jacob Zuma presidency? Total Votes: 141 I'm packing my bags. I'm out of here!  43% I'm reserving judgement before I decide.  22% Agg, he's no worse than George Bush.  12% Not too worried. He's a good team player.  1% It's no big deal. Politicians come and go.  7% He's not ideal but our democracy is strong.  9% I’m ecstatic. He will be great for SA!  6% 02 Apr 2009 Baby mama drama! Should Madonna be allowed to adopt another orphan from Malawi? Total Votes: 91 Yes. She's a committed, loving mother.  11% Probably. It's better than an orphanage.  40% Sure. As long as she follows the rules.  20% Nope. Her lifestyle is not for children.  3% No. The kid is just a fashion accessory.  25% Nah. The cultural differences are massive.  1% 26 Mar 2009 The Dalai Lama is not welcome in SA - at least according to our government. You think... Total Votes: 142 Hypocritical! How can our government forget its roots?  27% Upsetting. The whole fiasco is embarrassing our country.  46% Unsurprising. The government only cares about money.  15% Understandable. We need to be realistic about these things.  4% Boring. Who cares? It’s all a big fuss about nothing.  6% It’s quite correct. The Dalai Lama is a trouble maker.  2% 19 Mar 2009 Top or bottom – is it a gay stereotype? How do you identify yourself? Total Votes: 216 I am exclusively a bottom.  13% I am exclusively a top man.  9% I prefer to always be versatile.  39% It depends on each relationship.  22% Bah! I don't do these labels.  10% Neither. I don't do butt stuff.  3% I'm not sure. Haven't tried yet.  2% I don't understand the question!  2% 12 Mar 2009 A new report claims that the world faces 'irreversible' climate change. You think... Total Votes: 117 We're doomed! Mankind will soon die out.  14% The poor will suffer, the rich will be fine.  11% Life is going to change, but we'll adapt.  42% There’s still time to fix things. Yes, we can!  24% I don't really know how it'll affect me.  4% Bring it on, I like it warm and toasty!  2% It's all a load of tree-hugging hogwash.  3% 05 Mar 2009 Which international female superstar would you most want to see perform live in South Africa in the coming year? Total Votes: 165 Britney Spears  14% Christina Agulaira  4% Katy Perry  4% Lady Gaga  8% Madonna  43% Mariah Carey  2% Rihanna  6% None of the above  18% 26 Feb 2009 Does the fact the DA has so many gay candidates on its parliamentary list mean that you'll vote for the party? Total Votes: 152 Absolutely! They are really the only option.  20% It's great but I'd have voted for them anyway.  50% Perhaps, but I'll check out the others parties.  15% Probably not. I don't support their policies.  5% Nope. It's just a gimmick to get our votes.  5% No. I'd never vote for the DA, no matter what.  5% 19 Feb 2009 Do you think the man in the latest celeb sex tape is SA rugby star Joost van der Westhuizen? Total Votes: 167 Of course! It's clearly him.  16% I don't know. Time will tell.  10% Nahh. He would never do that.  3% Nope. It doesn't look like him.  2% Honestly, I really don't care.  25% I just wanna see the full video!  37% Who is Joost van der Westhuizen?  7% 12 Feb 2009 The general elections have been set for April 22. Will you be casting your vote this year? Total Votes: 167 Of course. We all need to play a part.  69% Yes, although I doubt it makes a difference.  15% Yip. My boyfriend will make me do it.  1% I don't know. It depends if I'm not busy.  2% Probably not. I'm not politically minded.  2% Nope. There's no point at all in voting.  3% No. I haven't gotten around to registering.  8% 04 Feb 2009 Red hearts, chocolates and flowers... How are you going to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Total Votes: 156 I’ll be romancing my boyfriend.  18% I’ll be spending it with friends.  9% I’ll be at home crying my eyes out.  5% I’ll be treating myself all day long.  2% I’ll be at the clubs looking for a shag.  6% I’m single. I’ll be in denial ignoring it all.  20% Screw Valentine’s! It’s a moneymaking racket.  40% 29 Jan 2009 How do you feel about ‘straight’ actors who perform in gay adult films? Total Votes: 170 I love it. It's a huge turn on for me!  15% I don't care, as long as they are hot.  45% It's a turn off - I know they're acting.  3% Ha! They're just closeted or bisexual.  28% I find it offensive and homophobic.  4% Ughh. I don't watch adult films.  6% 21 Jan 2009 Do you think that you should have to work at keeping your relationship alive? Total Votes: 166 Nope. It either works or it doesn’t work.  7% Maybe, perhaps it takes effort to keep it going.  5% Yes, anything worthwhile must be nurtured.  72% I’m not sure. I’m still figuring it all out.  7% Dunno, I’ve never been in a relationship.  1% Bahh, gay relationships don’t work at all.  8% 14 Jan 2009 It's been another year of highs and lows in SA's gay clubland. Which was your best club or regular party night in 2008? Total Votes: 282 Bronx (Cape Town)  10% Buzerant (Bloem)  0% Detour (Joburg)  0% Legends (Pretoria)  33% Loft Lounge (Cape Town)  5% The Lounge (Durban)  1% Oh! Bar (closed)  2% QC parties (Joburg)  4% Ramp Divas (Joburg)  22% Risque Lounge (Joburg)  17% Simply Blue (Joburg)  4% Therapy (closed)  0% 25 Dec 2008 Happy New Year! What's your New Year's Resolution for 2009? Total Votes: 286 Give up recreational drugs.  3% Finally stop smoking ciggies.  3% No more alcohol binges for me!  5% Be a better and kinder person.  6% Stop cheating on my boyfriend.  2% Ditch my stupid, useless boyfriend!  3% Start a new, interesting hobby.  3% Get that gym body I've dreamed of.  26% Be less stressed and have more fun!  18% Travel more and see the world.  7% Bah! I don't make any resolutions.  23% 17 Dec 2008 Have you been naughty or nice? What would you like for Christmas 2008? Total Votes: 106 Just peace on earth.  25% Cold, hard cash.  31% A massage and a facial.  7% Stacks of DVDs and CDs.  5% Cool stuff for the house.  8% Clothes, lots of 'em!  6% The latest games console.  3% Books or book vouchers.  13% Fragrances and creams.  3% 11 Dec 2008 Hey city boy, would you ever consider living out in the country or at a seaside village? Total Votes: 131 Never. I’ll live in the big bad city till I die.  14% I would, but only for part of the year.  20% Only if and when I’ve met my man for life.  19% I’d like to retire and get old in the country.  21% Absolutely, I hate living in the city.  17% I already do, and love every minute!  10% 04 Dec 2008 So how hot do you rate yourself in the looks department? Total Votes: 191 I'm steaming hot - model material.  8% I'm a good looking guy. I'd do me!  35% Yeah, I'm above the norm I guess.  21% Hmmm, I'd say that I'm average.  23% I'm not a looker, but I manage.  9% Help! I got hit with the ugly stick!  3% 27 Nov 2008 It’s international World Aids Day week. Do you always use protection when you get down and dirty? Total Votes: 166 Yes, every single time I have sex.  33% Most of the time, but I do slip up.  30% It depends what the guy looks like.  2% Sometimes. Aids is treatable these days.  4% No, but I’m in a committed relationship.  27% Only when I cheat on my boyfriend.  4% Never, I don’t believe HIV causes Aids.  1% 20 Nov 2008 A protest to follow up on unresolved complaints against Jon Qwelane's article is being planned. You think... Total Votes: 97 Good. I support any chance to nail Qwelane.  30% Great. We should not forget what happened.  25% Fine, but I don't think it will make a difference.  20% Get over it. It's like flogging a dead goat.  15% Huh, who is Jon Qwelane anyway?  10% 12 Nov 2008 Office politics: Are you out at your workplace? Total Votes: 179 Yep! Everyone knows I’m queer and I’m here!  34% Most people know. I don’t keep it hidden at all.  39% Only one or two people who I’m close to know.  11% Not at all. I’m worried that I won’t be accepted.  2% Never. I have no doubt I will be fired if I come out.  1% Don't want to be. My personal life is my business.  13% 06 Nov 2008 What do you think about Barack Obama winning the US presidential election? Total Votes: 147 I’m ecstatic! He’s an inspirational leader.  38% It’s about time the US had a decent president.  33% I’m not convinced he has the right experience.  2% I’m unsure. Let’s see what he does when in office.  12% He’ll soon become just like any other politician.  10% I don’t really care - I don’t live in the US.  5% 29 Oct 2008 From Survivor to So You Think You Can Dance, do you think local versions of international TV shows get it right? Total Votes: 129 Actually I think our versions are better.  2% Yes, they're as good as the originals!  5% Budgets are low, but they're still fun.  18% Nope, they are tacky and embarrassing.  35% No. We just don't have the talent.  7% Bahh, let’s create our own SA shows.  12% I don't know. I don't watch them.  20% 22 Oct 2008 We’re all gonna get gay and grey sooner or later. Does getting old worry you? Total Votes: 174 Yes, it’s tougher when you’re gay and don’t have kids.  14% I’m terrified. How will I get any action if I’m wrinkly?  7% A little bit. I hope I have someone in my life then.  40% Not really, I am preparing my finances with much care.  6% Nah... My man and I will be together until the very end.  14% Nope! I’m gonna be hanging out at the clubs till I die!  4% I’m already gay and grey and life is fantastic!  14% 16 Oct 2008 The world is in a financial crisis. Are you worried? Total Votes: 132 Oh yes, I think it's the end of civilisation.  7% Most Probably: I've accumulated a lot of debt.  15% I'm nervous: I don't know how it will affect me.  42% Not really, it will all go back to normal soon.  23% Not at all. I have all my financial ducks in a row.  7% Nope. I am sufficiently wealthy not to worry.  2% Financial crisis? It's the first I've heard of it.  5% 09 Oct 2008 When did you last read a good book? Total Votes: 140 Right now. I’m always reading a book or two.  41% Pretty recently. I read books fairly often.  15% On my last holiday. I find it relaxing to do.  11% Ages. I wish I had more time to read.  19% When I was studying. They made me do it!  4% Books? Who the hell reads books anymore?  6% Never. I don’t think I’ve read an entire book.  3% 01 Oct 2008 It’s Joburg Pride time! What do think about all the fuss? Total Votes: 149 Yay, it's all about the parties for me!  13% I'm a fan of the parade and fair day.  16% It’s a day for our voice to be heard.  28% Pride is an important political event.  9% It’s an embarrassing spectacle that I avoid.  25% A pointless event that’s a waste of time.  9% 25 Sep 2008 How do you feel about Manto Tshabalala-Msimang being ousted as the minister of health? Total Votes: 157 Thank god. She was a quack of note!  64% Sad. She was just misunderstood.  2% She should be tried for mass murder.  21% It bodes well for the new government.  6% I'll miss her. She was always entertaining.  7% 16 Sep 2008 Should Joburg Pride set the cat among the pigeons and put on its own official Pride after-party? Total Votes: 106 Yes, too many parties split the community when it should be united.  29% Sure, but only if it can be bigger and better than the usual parties.  12% Maybe, but people will still prefer to go to their favourite clubs.  12% Probably not, the community is too diverse to support one party.  10% No, official after-parties have traditionally been a disaster.  5% I don’t care who does it, I’ll go to the biggest party in town.  9% Blahh, I don’t do Pride after-parties. They’re all a rip-off.  22% 11 Sep 2008 Yay, it's Spring! What are you most looking forward to doing? Total Votes: 108 Working out like a demon for summer.  6% Celebrating Joburg Pride next month.  9% Getting back into the party scene.  6% Braais - lots and lots of them.  11% Waking up early and seeing the sun.  9% Getting wet at the beach or pool.  12% No more pyjamas and sleeping nekkid!  14% Checking out all the boys wearing shorts.  31% 04 Sep 2008 Will you be attending the Out In Africa Gay and Lesbian Film Festival this month? Total Votes: 92 Of course! I’ll be seeing most of the films.  10% Yeah. I’ll check out a few selected movies.  22% Not sure. I might see one or two films.  33% Probably not. It’s the same old thing really.  15% Nope. What’s the point of gay films anyway?  2% I wish I could, but it doesn’t come to my town.  14% Huh? Festival, what festival?  4% 27 Aug 2008 What do you think about taking recreational drugs during sex? Total Votes: 170 I do it occasionally. It''s just a treat.  18% I do it often, but I reckon I''m in control.  6% I''m worried. I may have a serious problem.  0% I''ve been there a few times, but have stopped.  7% I don''t do it but my partner sometimes does.  1% It''s just not cool. I don''t want to go there.  15% It’s sad. If you need drugs you''ve got a problem.  52% 20 Aug 2008 Should churches that forbid homosexuality be allowed to fire their gay staff? Total Votes: 113 No way. In SA, the constitution rules, not the bible!  58% They should have the right, but it''s still wrong.  11% Yes, but only if the person has a religious role.  6% Of course! A church is defined by its beliefs.  7% If you''re gay, why apply for the job in the first place?  19% 14 Aug 2008 What do you think about RuPaul coming to SA to perform at the Therapy Pride party? Total Votes: 123 Wow, it's made me excited about Pride again.  31% Exciting, but I would do Pride either way.  18% Cool, but I’d prefer a local or African artist.  1% I'll see her perform, but give Pride a skip.  7% I'm not interested in the drag queen thing.  11% Don't care, RuPaul is tired and washed out.  7% Huh, who the hell is this RuPaul?  26% 06 Aug 2008 If you had the guts, which reality TV show would you most prefer to enter? Total Votes: 121 Survivor: I like it rough and tough.  19% Top Chef: I'm a whizz in the kitchen.  6% So You Think You can Dance: I groove!  4% Big Brother: I'm an exhibitionist.  12% Project Runway: I'm so damn fierce!  10% Idols: Crooning is my passion.  4% Amazing Race: I like the pressure.  45% 30 Jul 2008 Have you started planning for this year's Joburg Pride yet? Total Votes: 108 Yep, I'm working on a float for the parade.  8% Not yet, but I've started thinking about it.  12% Don’t have anything to plan, but I’ll be there!  27% Uhh, I don't even know when it's happening.  29% Nope, I won't be taking part this year.  13% I don't live in Joburg, but I'd love to attend.  11% 23 Jul 2008 What do you think should be done about Jon Qwelane and his homophobic article in The Sunday Sun? Total Votes: 221 He should be forced to apologise.  23% He and his editor should both be fired.  52% He should be barred from ever writing again.  11% I'm not sure. The article is not so bad.  1% Nothing. He has a right to his opinion.  11% Bahh, we're making too much of all this.  2% 16 Jul 2008 You heartbreaker! What’s the best way to break up with a boyfriend? Total Votes: 149 Via e-mail or sms. Keep it impersonal.  5% At a busy restaurant or coffee-shop.  0% Just stop returning his phone calls.  11% Tell him that it's you, not him.  7% Start sleeping around: he’ll get the message.  4% Just be honest about your feelings.  60% Leave the country unannounced.  2% Dunno. I’ve never dumped anyone.  10% 09 Jul 2008 Do you think that the gay club scene is getting very druggy? Total Votes: 178 Not really, it’s always been that way.  35% Yes, it’s getting out of hand of late.  17% It really just depends who you hang with.  17% Yes, it is - but I don’t think it’s a problem.  1% Absolutely! That’s why I refuse to go.  10% No. I think things have gotten better.  2% Dunno. I don’t do the club scene.  18% 02 Jul 2008 Afrikaans music is thriving. So, who is your favourite Afrikaans pop artist? Total Votes: 170 Eden  11% Amor Vittone  1% Sonja Herholdt  4% Sarah Theron  4% Kurt Darren  5% Nicholis Louw  4% Karen Zoid  8% Bok van Blerk  1% Chris Chameleon  18% I don't do Afrikaans music.  45% 25 Jun 2008 Man-slut or saint? Do you consider yourself to be promiscuous? Total Votes: 164 Yes, and I'm proud of my (numerous) conquests!  8% Duh, isn't every gay man a walking, talking slut?  14% Sure, but only when I'm not in a committed relationship.  21% Not really, but I have the occasional one night stand.  27% Well, I prefer to wait until we’ve had a few dates.  11% Nope! For me, sex is for relationships only.  13% Sadly, not at all, but I'd sure like to be!  5% 18 Jun 2008 What should South Africa do about the tragic mess in Zimbabwe? Total Votes: 157 Invade the place and sort things out.  15% Arrest Robert Mugabe for human rights crimes.  47% Champion sanctions against Zim at the UN.  11% Demand that Mugabe immediately step down.  23% Work diplomatically behind the scenes.  0% Nothing at all. It’s not our business.  4% 11 Jun 2008 Work that body! What do you hate most about going to gym? Total Votes: 116 Travelling to and from the gym.  16% The cruising scene in the locker rooms.  6% The overly-aggro straight steroid boys.  22% Working out. It’s a pain in the neck!  11% Those snobby muscle queens.  15% Not seeing any bloody results!  23% Nothing! The gym is my life!  8% 04 Jun 2008 Do you agree with AfterElton.com’s recent proclamation that Jake Gyllenhaal is the sexiest gay icon in the world? Total Votes: 119 Of course! Take me right here, right now, JAKE!  27% He’s hot, but there are other sexier celebs out there.  52% Not at all, I really don’t see his appeal.  8% Bah! He shouldn’t have even made the list!  2% Huh, Jake who?  11% 28 May 2008 Are you looking forward to seeing Carrie and her friends in the Sex And The City movie? Total Votes: 119 Duh! I'm the world's biggest SATC fan!  23% Yes, I thought the TV show was great.  28% I might see it - if the buzz is good.  5% Uhh, I'll probably wait for the DVD.  13% Probably not. I didn’t watch the show.  24% Never. I hate Sex And The City!  8% 21 May 2008 Are you more likely to buy from a brand that is gay friendly? Total Votes: 157 Yes, I definitely will support it.  36% Sure, it will play a role in my choice.  16% Probably, but only if the product is good.  27% Maybe, but there are more important factors.  6% Nope, but I will avoid homophobic brands.  8% No. The best price will win my support.  6% 14 May 2008 What do you think of Joburg Pride’s 2008 theme, “Love, Not Hate,” which aims to highlight hate crimes? Total Votes: 126 Great. It’s a really important issue.  40% Not too bad at all. It works for me.  10% It should be clearer in its message.  10% Too negative! Why focus on hate?  10% Ughh. Pride should not be political.  11% I don’t really understand the theme.  0% Don’t care. I hate Pride!  17% 07 May 2008 Do you think passion can be sustained over a long-term gay relationship? Total Votes: 121 Yes, and I have achieved that in mine!  14% Sure, if the guys involved are a great match.  40% Perhaps, but it is very rare indeed.  12% Partly, but it does diminish with time.  13% Not sure. But I do hope it is possible!  15% No, we need to eventually find new pastures.  6% 23 Apr 2008 Load shedding, crime and a lame duck president. Would you pack up and emigrate? Total Votes: 209 Never. I'm here to build this country.  15% No. Despite the challenges, life is good.  19% Sometimes, but every country has its woes.  25% Regularly, but it's expensive and scary.  12% Yes, I will leave as soon as possible.  20% I've already set the date. I'm outta here!  10% 17 Apr 2008 She’s back with a new album, but, at 50, is Madonna past her prime? Total Votes: 125 Nope. She’s still at the top of her game.  42% Perhaps, but she’s still better than most.  10% Either way, she’s redefining how we see age.  23% Yes, although she still has her moments.  16% Absolutely, she is a sad embarrassment.  9% 10 Apr 2008 What do you think about the Pink Loerie Mardi Gras in Knysna? Total Votes: 79 I’ve attended and had a blast!  6% I’ve been and was disappointed.  4% Love it! I go every single year.  1% I’ll be going for the first time this year.  5% Sounds like fun, I will go someday.  57% Not interested. It’s 'too gay’ for me.  27% 03 Apr 2008 Will a Mugabe-free government change life for gays and lesbians in Zimbabwe? Total Votes: 115 Yes, I’m sure things will definitely improve.  26% I don’t know, but things couldn’t get worse.  10% Maybe, but Zim’s gays must take more action.  20% No. Gays will not be a priority for a new government.  18% Ha! Mugabe will never leave office alive.  25% 27 Mar 2008 Should openly homophobic artists be banned from performing? Total Votes: 148 Yes, they should not have any platform.  37% It depends if the show itself is anti-gay.  13% No. People are entitled to their opinion.  23% Yes, but only if they advocate violence.  14% Never. Speech must never be restricted.  14% 18 Mar 2008 What do you think of South African fashion? Total Votes: 119 Our local designers are world class.  14% Love it, but I don't know where to buy it.  17% Our designs are somewhat backward.  5% It’s only for people with a lot of money.  13% Quality and craftsmanship are lacking.  14% Un-impressed, I only buy international labels.  7% I don't know anything about it.  29% 12 Mar 2008 Get down and boogie! Which is the gayest song ever made? Total Votes: 211 I Am What I Am  29% Dancing Queen  10% YMCA  10% It’s Raining Men  26% I Will Survive  12% We Are Family  6% Vogue  3% I Love The Nightlife  1% Weekend Special  1% 05 Mar 2008 Have you ever been interested in the leather scene? Total Votes: 201 Of course, I am a leatherman myself.  8% Yes, but I don’t know where to start.  24% I tried it, but it wasn’t really for me.  5% Actually, I’m not sure what it’s about.  11% Nope. It all looks pretty sleazy to me.  24% Never. I’m a very vanilla kind of guy.  27% 28 Feb 2008 Is Robbie Klay justified in laying charges against the man he claims indecently assaulted him? Total Votes: 183 No, he's doing it for the publicity!  9% Maybe he's trying to make a quick buck.  4% Well, why did he leave it for so long?  27% Of course! He was a minor at the time.  9% Yes, there is no excuse for sexual abuse.  26% I don't know, but it's interesting reading.  4% Huh, who the hell is Robbie Klay?  20% 21 Feb 2008 What is your biggest complaint about eating out these days? Total Votes: 201 Outrageous food prices.  19% Predictable and dull menus.  14% Bad service is everywhere.  31% Food quality is often poor.  8% Wine prices are a rip-off.  10% Unexciting décor and ambiance.  4% None! I'm usually happy with it all.  12% 14 Feb 2008 Load shedding is sure to return. What do you like to do in the dark? Total Votes: 132 Read a book by candlelight.  7% Go to bed and sleep soundly.  28% Get nooky-time with my man.  31% Go cruising the hotspots.  6% I just switch on the generator.  11% Go visit a friend’s place.  2% Throw vases at the wall!  15% 07 Feb 2008 How do you feel about celebrating Valentine’s Day? Total Votes: 135 It’s fun! I love all the red roses, choccies and cards.  16% It’s a good way to let someone known I’m interested.  11% I do it for my boyfriend, although I think it’s stupid.  13% I don’t do romance. Getting a shag is what I’m into.  4% It depresses me. I never have any admirers.  24% Bah, it’s just a money-making rip-off. I hate it.  33% 30 Jan 2008 Have you ever broken up with a guy because of the size of his manhood? Total Votes: 178 A few times. I don't do average.  3% Yeah, he was just WAY too small.  15% Never, I've always been well matched.  12% Yes, there was just too much of him!  3% Sure. I'm a big time size queen.  5% Nope. It's about the man, not the tool.  48% No! Gay men are too superficial!  13% 23 Jan 2008 Do you prefer to date younger or older guys than you? Total Votes: 210 Neither. Guys around my age are just right.  23% Older: They’re more confident and hotter.  21% Older: They can spoil me with gifts.  1% Younger: They have a lot less baggage.  6% Younger: I like being the one in control.  9% No preference: It depends on the guy.  40% 17 Jan 2008 Have you got the power? How do you feel about load shedding? Total Votes: 159 Desperate! It’s ruining my business.  9% Embarrassed. We’re a basket case nation.  20% Worried. The economy will come to a halt.  22% Outraged! Heads must roll over this fiasco.  29% Hysterical. I can’t take traffic jams anymore.  8% Ready to explode. I’m going to sue someone.  5% Unconcerned. At least I have time for gym.  7% 09 Jan 2008 In your opinion, what is the sexiest part of a guy's body? Total Votes: 226 Those muscular legs  13% His eyes & face  31% A nice, tight ass  20% His naughty bits  5% A great chest  14% His sexy arms  9% A toned back  4% His armpits  2% 03 Jan 2008 What did you do to celebrate on New Year's Eve? Total Votes: 172 Spent it quietly with family.  15% Just my man and me at home.  10% At a gay club partying it up.  20% With friends around the braai.  13% At a private house party.  15% In the bush or out in nature.  6% With a crowd in a public space.  5% Nothing. I was fast asleep by 12.  16% 27 Dec 2007 Are you ready for 2008? What’s your New Year’s resolution for the coming year? Total Votes: 125 Giving up smoking  5% Cutting back on booze  2% No more party favours  1% Taking more time for myself  10% Making more money  10% Getting my body into shape  30% Starting a relationship  12% Becoming more successful  9% Starting a new career  5% None. I don’t believe in resolutions!  18% 12 Dec 2007 Have you been good? What would you like for Christmas this year? Total Votes: 210 World peace  16% Cold hard cash  27% Gift vouchers  1% CDs and DVDs  4% A games console  3% Lots of books  3% Fragrance & bling  2% A sexy boyfriend  45% 05 Dec 2007 How do you feel about Jacob Zuma being your next president? Total Votes: 207 Horrors! I shall leave the country!  25% I’m scared; he’s got no moral fibre.  36% Worried, he’s used homophobic speech.  18% I’m ambivalent. All politicians are dodgy.  10% He’s a lout, but we do need a change.  5% Happy. He’ll sort out our HIV/Aids policies.  1% He’s the best thing that could happen to SA.  5% 28 Nov 2007 Do you think a vaccine for HIV will ever be found? Total Votes: 171 Yes, I’m sure we are close to finding it.  21% Probably, it may just take a few years.  37% Sure, but probably not in our lifetime.  24% I hope so, HIV/ AIDS is limiting my sex life.  11% I hope not, we'll just start misbehaving again.  4% I don't care. It doesn't affect my life either way.  2% 22 Nov 2007 What kind of music do you prefer to listen to in a club? Total Votes: 162 Hard house  10% Funky house  28% Commercial  15% Trance  4% Electro  4% Rock  3% R&B  2% Latin  4% Anything, as long as it's good.  30% 15 Nov 2007 Will you be going to Cape Town’s MCQP party this year? Total Votes: 139 Of course, I go every single year!  5% Yes, I’m looking forward to it.  13% Probably, despite the bad theme.  4% Perhaps, depends on my schedule.  12% No, it seems uninspiring this year.  24% Nope, getting to CT is a problem.  42% 07 Nov 2007 With a 737’s loss of an engine on take off in Cape Town, how do you feel about flying? Total Votes: 158 I love flying! It was just a random once off.  54% I enjoy it, but I sometimes worry about safety.  32% I don’t mind flying, although I prefer to drive.  7% I’ll fly if I have to, but I’m a nervous wreck.  4% I’m terrified! I refuse to get on any airplane.  3% 31 Oct 2007 Cape Town is often called SA's gay capital, but which is really the gayest city in the country? Total Votes: 270 Johannesburg  42% Cape Town  39% Pretoria  14% Knysna  1% Bloemfontein  3% Durban  1% 24 Oct 2007 Do you usually make a point of staying friends with your exes? Total Votes: 144 Yes, I do try to as much as possible.  22% I’d really like to, but they often don’t.  7% Sometimes. It just depends on the guy.  42% Not really. There’s a reason we broke up.  23% Never. It’s always too messy and ugly.  7% 17 Oct 2007 Which is the most depressing failing of the SA Government? Total Votes: 179 Managing the Zimbabwe issue  10% Bringing crime under control  65% Ensuring true media freedom  2% Saving the public health system  8% Ending public service corruption  6% Eradicating poverty & unemployment  9% Don’t know. I don’t follow politics.  1% 10 Oct 2007 How often do you spend time with your family? Total Votes: 177 We don’t really speak to be honest.  3% Not very. I try avoid them at all costs.  3% Rarely. We live in different towns.  24% Only on major events like birthdays.  7% I see them once or twice a month.  20% I’m there almost once a week.  27% Very often! I still live at home!  15% 03 Oct 2007 With our liberal Constitution, is Pride even still relevant today? Total Votes: 165 Sure - even the Constitution can be changed.  10% Of course, look at the Soweto murders!  11% Yes, laws don’t change people’s hearts.  36% I’m not sure, but it helps keep us visible.  10% Nah, Pride doesn’t make a difference.  6% Nope, it’s now just an excuse to party.  22% Maybe, but it actually makes things worse.  5% 27 Sep 2007 Which is your favourite gay and lesbian print publication? Total Votes: 124 Exit  32% Wrapped  19% Gay Pages  19% Pink Tongue  3% Attitude  20% Gay Times  6% 20 Sep 2007 What do you most look forward to during Pride? Total Votes: 121 Any opportunity to meet new people  6% The more serious community events  2% The cultural aspect: movies and launches  7% The parade through the city’s streets  13% The post-parade party at the park  6% The night-time ass-shaking after-parties  23% Nada! I try and avoid the whole thing.  42% 12 Sep 2007 What’s your favourite Gauteng party night out? Total Votes: 219 Legends  17% Oh! bar  6% QC parties  38% Ramp Divas  10% Risque Lounge  13% Simply Blue  10% Swanky parties  4% The Senate  2% 05 Sep 2007 What are your thoughts about barebacking? Total Votes: 239 There’s never any smart reason to do it.  31% It’s fine in a long term trusting relationship.  44% I’ll do it if we both have tests done.  13% It’s okay, as long as the guy seems safe.  4% I love it. I’m prepared to take the risks.  4% I do it because my partner and I are positive.  2% I don’t know what barebacking is!  2% 29 Aug 2007 What would make the perfect romantic date? Total Votes: 158 A fancy dinner at a top restaurant  27% Takeouts and DVDs at home  13% A simple picnic at the park  31% In the back row at the movies  1% Cocktails at a five star hotel  8% A shopping spree at the mall  1% A night out on the dancefloor  3% Why leave the bedroom at all?  16% 23 Aug 2007 How often do you get yourself tested for HIV? Total Votes: 122 On a regular, almost monthly, basis.  2% More or less once or twice a year.  43% Whenever I start a new relationship.  13% Only if I'm worried after slipping up.  7% When my insurance has asked for it.  24% I've never been tested. I'm not worried.  3% I avoid it. I just don't want to know.  7% 16 Aug 2007 What would you most like to be treated to regularly? Total Votes: 183 A full body massage.  36% An invigorating facial.  4% Pedicure and manicure.  2% Romantic weekend away.  36% A spiritual retreat.  5% A personal gym trainer.  16% 07 Aug 2007 Would you ever introduce a third party into your relationship? Total Votes: 243 Maybe, but it would be totally anonymous.  2% Yes, but only as a casual one night thing.  26% Yip. I’d consider having a long-term other person.  4% Not sure. It sounds interesting but complicated.  18% Never. It would invariably destroy the relationship.  51% 01 Aug 2007 When is a good time to move in with your new boyfriend? Total Votes: 178 Why wait? On the first date!  2% After a couple of weeks or so.  2% Get to know him for a few months.  42% After at least a year or two.  42% Only when you’re legally married.  3% Moving in is a bad idea, period.  10% 25 Jul 2007 What’s your current favourite international hit television show? Total Votes: 212 Desperate Housewives  31% Prison Break  9% Ugly Betty  14% Boston Legal  4% America’s Top Model  5% Lost  4% Grey’s Anatomy  18% Heroes  16% 19 Jul 2007 On which weekend night do you prefer to go out clubbing? Total Votes: 147 Friday night is the trick.  31% Saturday night of course.  31% Neither. I don't do the clubs.  38% 12 Jul 2007 What should the government do about the recent murder of a lesbian couple in Soweto? Total Votes: 110 Issue a Presidential condemnation of the crimes  9% Start an awareness campaign on LGBT hate crimes  7% Be more forceful in cracking down on all crime  25% Start a register of which crimes are hate crimes  3% All the above, with support from the LGBT community  46% The government is powerless to stop this  10% 05 Jul 2007 Have you ever used Viagra, or a similar product? Total Votes: 166 Yes, I often need to use it in the sack.  12% Yip, but just to see what it was like.  11% Occasionally, just to help me out when nervous.  5% Only if I‘ve used other recreational drugs.  13% Nope, never used the stuff.  58% 28 Jun 2007 Vroom vroom! What kind of relationship do you have with your car? Total Votes: 142 None. It's just a tool to get me from A to B.  14% My car is okay, but I wish I could afford better.  15% She's old, noisy and cranky but she's my baby.  8% I don’t need a Porsche, but the latest features are a must.  21% My car is expensive and tells everyone I've made it.  15% Blah! People place too much emphasis on the car they drive.  27% 21 Jun 2007 Do you believe that South Africa’s gay community will ever become more racially integrated? Total Votes: 151 Absolutely, it is already happening.  19% Yes, but it could take many years.  38% Nope, certainly not in our lifetime.  15% Never. Similar people just stick together.  21% I dunno, but I sure hope so!  8% 13 Jun 2007 What is your favourite activity during these long, cold winter nights? Total Votes: 196 Watching TV & DVDs at home.  38% Going out to restaurants or bars.  7% Web surfing & cruising Meet Market.  10% Visiting with friends & family.  5% Reading a good book in bed.  11% Spending time with the b’friend.  19% Working out at the gym.  5% Knitting, macramé or scrapbooking.  6% 06 Jun 2007 What would you most like to see on Mambaonline in the future? Total Votes: 147 Live chatrooms  54% Discussion forums  15% Space for blogs  11% Video reports  5% Music downloads  7% E-mail news alerts  4% SMS news alerts  0% Mobizine version  3% 31 May 2007 If you had to choose one, with which term would you prefer to be described? Total Votes: 342 Gay  72% Homosexual  6% Moffie  3% Sister  2% Bisexual  4% Queer  3% Faggot  3% Family  8% Poof  0% 23 May 2007 Do you dye your hair? What do you think about guys that do it? Total Votes: 145 I do it regularly just because I like the change.  4% I’ve played around with hair colour a few times.  21% I dye my hair regularly to cover those nasty greys.  14% I’ve never dyed my hair but wouldn’t mind.  6% Not cool. It’s bit of a girly thing to do really.  16% It doesn’t bother me one way or the other.  39% 17 May 2007 Do you think that homophobia is a reality in South Africa today? Total Votes: 137 Definitely! We all live with it every day of our lives.  31% Sometimes. It depends on each person’s environment.  47% Yes, but not overtly. It’s much more subtle these days.  19% Not for most people. Only in very extreme scenarios.  2% Nope. Homophobia is something made up by activists.  1% 10 May 2007 What do you think would improve SA's gay clubbing scene? Total Votes: 144 Better and more varied types of music.  19% More interesting and sexier venues.  33% Catering to groups (e.g. bears, leather)  6% Better quality sound and lighting.  2% Friendlier service and vibe at clubs.  24% More entertainment (go-go boys, dancers).  15% Nothing. The scene is great as is!  1% 03 May 2007 When it comes to dating, you think that gay men are… Total Votes: 169 More together than straights.  4% Just like everyone else.  33% Incapable of honesty.  8% Just out to get laid.  29% Unable to commit.  8% Completely f****d up!  19% 25 Apr 2007 The South African team has crashed out of the Cricket World Cup. Do you care? Total Votes: 153 Absolutely. I've been glued to every match!  8% Sure. I watched the key matches we played.  33% Yes. But I never saw any of the matches.  8% I guess. It would have been nice to win.  12% I don't give a damn. I hate the game of cricket.  10% Nope. I think SA is too frikkin sport crazy.  10% Huh? Cricket World Cup? When? Where?  18% 18 Apr 2007 Do you think the Christian Bible condemns homosexuality? Total Votes: 174 Absolutely. That's why I'm not a Christian.  9% Yes, but God will forgive me being gay anyway.  5% Maybe, but the Bible was written by men not God.  29% Yes and no: it depends on how you interpret it.  32% I don't know. I haven't really read the whole thing.  5% Who cares? It's just outdated nonsense anyway.  21% 11 Apr 2007 How do you feel about the issue of circumcision when it comes to a lover? Total Votes: 261 I honestly don't really care either way.  38% I do tend to prefer a circumcised man.  26% I usually prefer an uncircumcised man.  28% I will only date a circumcised guy.  5% I will only date an uncircumcised guy.  1% I never really notice to be honest.  3% 04 Apr 2007 Do you think that closeted gay celebrities should be outed by the media? Total Votes: 166 Yes. When you’re a celeb you lose your right to privacy.  8% Yip! They shouldn’t take our money while deceiving us.  2% Definitely. We need more openly-gay role models.  13% Maybe. But only if they’ve lied outright about it.  11% No. Coming out is a very personal process for everyone.  45% Nope. It’s really none of our business is it?  20% 28 Mar 2007 National Police Commissioner Jackie Selebi says that prostitution should be legalised during the 2010 World Cup. Do you agree? Total Votes: 131 Yes! It’ll help with the hordes of horny hooligans.  5% Absolutely – but it should be legalised for good.  26% Sure. But why wait till then? Do it now already!  44% I’m sot sure. Perhaps only during the World Cup.  1% No! Why should we drop our morals for soccer?  25% 23 Mar 2007 Do you think that gay and lesbian sections still have a place in bookstores? Total Votes: 108 Yes. It means that our needs are taken seriously.  32% Sure. Gay culture is a unique & important one.  37% Maybe. But I’m too embarrassed to go there.  6% Maybe, although I don’t really read gay books.  10% Nope. It’s just full of badly written & trashy books.  6% Umm…Isn’t it just another place to cruise guys?  8% 14 Mar 2007 What do you think should be done about crime in South Africa? Total Votes: 183 The death penalty should be brought back.  51% We should have more police on the streets.  17% The judicial system needs to be revamped.  6% We need to tackle poverty to make a difference.  15% Better education will change the culture of violence.  9% Family structures need to be strengthened.  2% 08 Mar 2007 Does the SABC show enough local gay TV programming? Total Votes: 129 No. As the public broadcaster they must represent us.  58% Nope. But we’re just too controversial for the public.  11% Maybe not. But we are a minority, so it’s understandable.  12% Yes, they are sufficiently including us in various programs.  2% I don’t care. I only want to see overseas shows anyway.  17% 01 Mar 2007 Do you think Britney Spears can ever stage a successful comeback? Total Votes: 109 Nope! She’s too much of a tragic joke these days.  13% I doubt it. She’s no longer appealing to teens.  4% Undoubtedly. The world loves tragic comebacks.  11% Probably. Any publicity is likely good publicity.  11% Maybe, but I won’t be buying her music again.  3% I hope so. Perhaps she just needs recovery time.  12% Don’t care. I never liked her in the first place.  47% 20 Feb 2007 Where should this year’s Joburg Pride Parade take place? Total Votes: 260 Rosebank and Zoo Lake  14% Melville and surrounds  26% In the Newtown area  6% How about Soweto?  4% The Joburg city centre  2% Somewhere in Sandton  17% Boksburg perhaps?  31% 12 Feb 2007 So what does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Total Votes: 122 It’s a chance to show my man how I feel.  11% It’s a day to tell my crush about my feelings.  6% It's a true celebration of romantic love.  9% It’s just a fun day that doesn’t mean much.  21% It’s a pathetic money-making racket.  38% Bah humbug! It’s all just silly nonsense.  16% 07 Feb 2007 What would annoy you most about a potential lover / boyfriend? Total Votes: 112 His annoying voice  15% An irritating laugh  9% Occasional body odour  8% A really bad temper  33% Terrible taste in music  4% Occasional bad breath  25% His bad dress sense  5% 31 Jan 2007 What do think of the pictures of Daniel Radcliffe (Harry Potter) issued to promote his new London play (see above)? Total Votes: 227 They’re rather sexy, even if he is a bit young.  66% Not very attractive. He's not my type at all.  7% Ugh... He's way too young to be appealing.  5% I think it's just a clever piece of marketing.  9% It's wrong to put out sexual pics of a 17 year old.  8% Eek! I'll never think of Harry Potter the same way again!  6% 24 Jan 2007 Who was the first person you officially came out to? Total Votes: 196 Mommy dearest  11% My father  2% Brother or sister  13% A good friend  56% One of my shags  6% A teacher  1% Religious figure  1% A shrink  2% I still haven't come out  8% 17 Jan 2007 Who would you say is South Africa's most important openly gay role model? Total Votes: 180 Judge Edwin Cameron  39% Pieter Dirk Uys  22% Dion Chang  1% Adam Levin  1% Zackie Achmat  18% Steven Cohen  1% Sadly, there are none  17% 10 Jan 2007 It’s a new year! But looking back, how would you describe 2006? Total Votes: 119 The very best year of my life. It rocked!  9% A pretty good year. I accomplished much.  34% It was ok. Very much the same as other years.  13% Not too great really. It could have been better.  20% Awful. It was a year full of bad things for me.  18% I don't want to talk about it, okay!  5% 13 Dec 2006 Happy happy! What will you be doing to celebrate New year's Eve? Total Votes: 255 A quiet night at home with the family.  8% A quiet night at home with friends.  11% A raucous house party at my place.  5% I'll be going to a friend's party.  16% It's one of the nightclubs for me.  20% To be honest, I'm really not sure.  25% I'll be sleeping soundly in bed.  14% 07 Dec 2006 How much Christmas shopping will you be doing this festive season? Total Votes: 88 A great deal. But it’ll be mostly for me!  3% Lots. I like to spoil family and friends.  19% I’m cutting back. The credit card can’t cope.  17% Not a lot. Xmas is not only about gifts.  40% None at all. I don’t celebrate Xmas.  20% 23 Nov 2006 Do you think that the media represents gays and lesbians positively? Total Votes: 245 No. We're always seen as outsiders and freaks.  23% Never. We only appear when there's a scandal.  22% Sometimes. But we're often to blame for it.  14% I think it really depends on the publication.  17% Yes. Although there are a few exceptions.  9% Oh stop whining. We're fair game like everyone else.  16% 16 Nov 2006 The end of the year is nigh! What are your plans for the holidays? Total Votes: 177 Nada! Sadly, I’ll be working at the office as usual.  16% Can’t afford any. I’ll spend my leave relaxing at home.  20% I’ve chosen to not go away. I hate the holiday crowds.  21% I’m jet-setting! I’ve planned an overseas holiday.  14% Local really is lekker. I’m heading for the coast.  25% I’ll be spending my break elsewhere in Africa.  4% 08 Nov 2006 Gay unions will be legal in SA from this December. Have you started planning your wedding yet? Total Votes: 176 Yes. It's all been scheduled and guests invited.  3% Not yet. But I am seriously thinking about it.  19% Nope. I first want to see if the law is really passed.  11% I refuse to get married under the Civil Union Bill.  10% I'd love to. But there's no worthy man in my life!  26% Never! I have no interest in getting married.  32% 01 Nov 2006 Have you started your Christmas shopping yet? Total Votes: 121 Yes, I’m almost all done. I always plan way ahead.  2% I’ve started buying the odd present here and there.  7% No. But I am thinking about what I need to buy.  26% Nope. I always leave it to the very last minute.  30% Eeek! I never realised how close Xmas is!  10% Not at all. I don’t celebrate the Christmas season.  26% 27 Oct 2006 Lebo Mathosa is no more. How do you feel about the late singer? Total Votes: 160 She was a true icon and musical phenomenon.  38% I never really knew her music, but she had style.  9% Lebo was a decent singer with very good publicists.  6% She was all about hype. There was little talent.  6% I found her to be trashy and tasteless.  3% I'd never really heard of her until she died.  39% 19 Oct 2006 Do you think South Africa's press freedom is under threat? Total Votes: 116 Yes! The SABC and proposed laws are taking us backwards.  51% There is concern, but we still have exceptionally free media.  26% Maybe. But I think these things will sort themselves out.  3% I’m not worried. The constitution ensures we stay free.  6% No. The media is again overreacting over the smallest thing.  2% Actually, I don't really know what you're talking about...  13% 12 Oct 2006 What do you think about Madonna's adoption of a Malawian child this week? Total Votes: 171 It's fantastic that she's using her wealth for good.  27% I'm unsure, but it does raise awareness of African poverty.  13% Maybe it's a publicity ploy, but it's good for the kid.  18% Pathetic. It's a shameless attempt at self-promotion.  13% Sad. She's just following the Hollywood adoption trend.  25% I don't have an opinion. Where is Malawi anyway?  4% 04 Oct 2006 So what did you think of this year’s Joburg Pride parade at Zoo Lake? Total Votes: 157 Better than ever. It’s improving every year.  6% It was okay. About the same as previous events.  15% Pretty bad, but it’s terrible every year anyway.  4% Awful. It’s getting increasingly embarrassing.  17% It was the worst Joburg Pride I can remember.  8% I didn’t go. I don’t really do the Pride thing.  35% I’m not in Joburg, so have no opinion.  16% 28 Sep 2006 Do you think that Zuma’s recent homophobic comments qualify as hate speech? Total Votes: 213 Absolutely! His comments could incite violence.  44% Yes. Especially since his apology was very weak.  15% Perhaps. But I think his apology was sufficient.  1% Not at all. They were offensive, but not dangerous.  0% No. He should be able to freely express his opinion.  2% Either way, he is an embarrassment to the country.  38% 20 Sep 2006 What new hobby would you most like to take up? Total Votes: 156 Ballroom dancing  19% Scuba diving  17% Photography  31% Painting or sketching  7% Drag performing  5% Skydiving  8% Fishing  1% Car / bike racing  12% 06 Sep 2006 So how do you feel about the proposed Civil Unions Bill? Total Votes: 253 Very angry. We were promised real marriage!  55% Mildly upset, but it's better than nothing.  13% Happy. A separate kind of gay marriage is great.  14% Unconcerned. Any form of marriage is outdated.  14% Not sure. I don't really know what's at stake.  4% 31 Aug 2006 It's September and the first hints of Spring are in the air. Does that mean... Total Votes: 103 Shopping. It's time for a new wardrobe!  6% Hormones are rousing. Time to hunt for love.  18% Hitting the sunbed to prepare for exposing flesh.  14% Ogling season. Men start wearing shorts again.  31% I'm ready to leave the house and party more often.  18% Spring doesn't make much of a difference in my life.  13% 24 Aug 2006 How do you feel about new laws that ban the sale of adult films on SA websites? Total Votes: 144 Really angry! It’s blatantly unconstitutional.  31% Parents must be responsible for kids, not me!  30% Not a big deal. I’ll just buy from foreign sites  10% Unfortunate, but minors must be protected.  13% Not fussed. I already only buy from overseas sites.  4% I don’t care. I don’t watch that kind of stuff.  12% 16 Aug 2006 Why do you think The Heartlands in Johannesburg ended up closing down? Total Votes: 216 Location: Braamfontein is too far and dangerous.  28% Money: They were overpriced, especially DCM.  17% It wasn’t gay enough: it tried to appeal to straights.  16% The music policy: The music was just too hard.  6% Boredom: It was the same thing week in and out.  19% It was too big and the community too small.  3% I don’t know. I thought it was great!  11% 26 Jul 2006 George Michael’s been caught having sex in a park (again) in London. You think... Total Votes: 592 Good for him. He's just a typical gay man.  35% It's fine. It was between consenting adults.  6% Leave him alone already. It's his business.  27% It's pretty sad. He’s a bad role model.  10% Bizarre. He's got such a hot boyfriend!  8% He needs help. He’s self destructing.  15% 19 Jul 2006 The Middle East is again in flames, but do you really care anymore? Total Votes: 188 Of course! Innocent people are dying every day.  49% Yes, but what's the point of me worrying about it?  7% Sort of. These people really bring on themselves.  5% No. It's hopeless. I've given up on the Middle East.  7% Yes, but only because I have to pay more for petrol.  26% I don't know. I don't really follow the news.  5% 12 Jul 2006 Have you ever met anyone worthwhile through an online dating service? Total Votes: 248 Absolutely! I met my current boyfriend online.  15% Yep, I met my ex-boyfriend through a website.  7% Quite a lot of flings, but no-one very serious.  29% Not romantically, but I have made new friends.  18% Nope. Only a bunch of weirdoes and psychos.  23% Can’t say. I’ve never tried online dating.  7% 05 Jul 2006 Are you involved in South African mainstream politics or is it something that other people take care of? Total Votes: 152 Nah. Politics is not for me: I’d rather read Heat magazine thanks.  41% It comes up at dinner parties, but I'm not really clued up.  5% I do usually vote at elections, but that's about it really.  18% I regularly read the papers / news websites - I know what’s going on.  28% I'd like to be involved, but the political system is just too corrupt.  9% You bet! I'm an active party member and go to regular meetings!  1% 28 Jun 2006 Madonna is said to be performing in SA in November. How much would you pay to see the pop icon strut her stuff? Total Votes: 361 I wouldn't go. I don't do live concerts.  7% Not much. I don't really care for her music.  45% Not more than R500. I'm not a huge fan.  12% I'll pay up to R1000. She's one of a kind!  13% I'd pay just about anything! She's my idol.  17% Are you kidding? I'd give up body parts for the honour.  7% 22 Jun 2006 Does the thought of losing your hair give you sleepless nights? Total Votes: 177 I’m not worried. I have good hair genes.  29% Yep, I can tell that it could be a problem.  11% Umm, I’ve never really given it any thought.  8% Help, it’s happening to me as I read this!  10% No. I have no problem letting nature take its course.  36% Yes, and I spent plenty to keep all my hair.  7% 14 Jun 2006 The banning of the Thabo Mbeki documentary by the SABC is raising hackles. You think... Total Votes: 163 Not surprising. It confirms that the SABC is a state propaganda machine. I'm angry.  56% I'm shocked. I expected the SABC to support independent free speech.  19% Not sure what to think. I doubt we'll ever know until we actually see it.  9% I’m sure that it was probably pulled for a very good editorial reason.  2% Who cares! I don't want to watch shows about politicians on TV anyway!  14% 07 Jun 2006 Will you be watching the 2006 football World Cup on TV? Total Votes: 187 Puhlease. I'm gay. I don't watch sport.  26% What's the point? The SA team didn't qualify.  2% Maybe. Just to check out the hot players.  27% I'm a fan. I might catch a couple of games.  14% I'll watch the final to see what the fuss is about.  4% Absolutely. I'll be glued to the TV throughout.  9% I dig sports, but soccer is just not my game.  18% 01 Jun 2006 When looking for a relationship, when’s the right time to have sex? Total Votes: 171 The 1st date! Assess the chemistry right away. Sex is really important in a relationship.  9% The 2nd date. I'm no skank! It means you’re keen on more than a shag.  4% The 3rd or 4th date. It shows that you're mature and serious about your intentions.  14% There are no rules and no right time. I play it by ear depending on the guy.  74% 24 May 2006 The winter blues have come early this year. Does the cold weather influence your social routine? Total Votes: 149 No way! I’m too single to stop socialising!  5% Brrr… You bet. I’m not stepping out till spring!  9% I’ll stay in and snuggle with my boyfriend.  17% Somewhat. I’ll still get out, but much less.  38% I’ll go out, but make sure I’m home early.  3% Never. Life’s too short to miss a good party!  9% Nah. I don’t socialise much no matter the weather.  19% 17 May 2006 What's your favourite type of ethnic food? Total Votes: 194 Japanese: Sushi & fresh light flavours  12% Thai: Sweet, sour & spicy  9% Indian: Rich, saucy & hot  41% Portuguese: Spicy seafood & chicken  10% Italian: Pastas, pizzas & veal  14% S. African: Pap, wors & bobotie  9% Middle East: Lamb, spices & lemons  6% 11 May 2006 What do you think should be done about the Joburg Pride crisis? Total Votes: 319 Nothing! We don’t need Pride anyway.  8% Oh, it’ll all come right in the end. It always does.  2% Actually I don't think there really is a crisis.  1% Someone needs to step in and take charge.  6% New blood! A non-profit organisation should be set up.  9% We need to look at other Prides and learn from them.  71% I don’t care. I don’t live in Joburg.  3% 04 May 2006 If you had to (at gunpoint) sleep with a sexy female celebrity, who would you like it to be? Total Votes: 766 Angelina Jolie  37% Paris Hilton  2% Jessica Simpson  1% Halle Berry  7% Scarlett Johansson  2% Jennifer Lopez  1% Beyonce Knowles  30% Eva Longoria  10% None. I’d take the bullet!  11% 27 Apr 2006 Do you think that the country has too many public holidays? Total Votes: 134 Never! We should have many, many more of them.  31% Maybe: they affect routine, but I still enjoy the breaks.  42% Yes, they should be consolidated into two weeks off!  4% Definitely. They should be drastically reduced.  11% I don't care. I'm filthy rich and don't work anyway.  12% 20 Apr 2006 Is South Africa an excessively dangerous place in which to live? Total Votes: 184 Without a doubt. I constantly fear for my safety.  10% Yes! I take many precautions to protect myself.  20% To some extent, but I’m not paranoid about it.  42% It’s not more dangerous that many other countries.  23% Not really. It’s the media that make it seem so.  1% I don’t worry about it. If it’s my time to go…  3% 12 Apr 2006 Where is your favourite place to get down and dirty? Total Votes: 161 Duh. In the good old bedroom of course.  22% In the house, but not the boring bedroom!  10% Outdoors – getting in touch with nature.  9% Public places: bathrooms, gym and the like.  9% Clubs and the obligatory steambaths.  4% While travelling: cars, planes and trains!  2% I don’t really care. Wherever it happens!  43% 05 Apr 2006 How would you describe the state of gay clubbing in South Africa? Total Votes: 216 Embarrassing: Expensive, trashy and unoriginal.  37% Pretty sad. We do need new ideas and blood.  23% OK, but I’m getting slightly bored of what’s on offer.  14% Improving steadily, but there’s a way to go yet.  6% It’s still as great as ever! I have no complaints.  2% I don’t care actually. I don’t go clubbing.  18% 30 Mar 2006 Feeling broody? Would you consider raising a child? Total Votes: 159 Yes. I’ll probably adopt a needy kid.  14% Sure. But I’d prefer that he was genetically mine.  26% Maybe. But not right now in my life.  13% Only if I’m in a really stable relationship.  6% I guess - if my partner really wants kids.  6% Nope. Dirty nappies just don’t appeal to me.  35% 22 Mar 2006 How often do you buy adult films / magazines? Total Votes: 137 Often. I should have a store account card!  7% Sometimes. I think I’m an average shopper.  40% Never. I’m really not into that kind of stuff.  16% Rarely. I can’t actually afford to buy it.  12% I don’t pay. I borrow and steal from friends!  8% I wish I could. I’m just too embarrassed.  16% 15 Mar 2006 If you had the choice, would you have preferred to have lived your life as a heterosexual? Total Votes: 282 Never. I wouldn’t be the same person I am.  45% No. I love the fact that I’m fabulously gay!  11% It’s not an issue. I don’t have a preference.  9% Perhaps. It might have made life easier.  17% I don’t know. It’s got me thinking tho.  5% Definitely. I really would like to be straight.  12% 09 Mar 2006 How do you feel about the Out In African Film Festival? Total Votes: 106 Love it! I’ll watch as many films as I can  19% It’s great. But I’ll be selective about what I see.  44% I’m not there for the films, but to meet people!  1% I don’t care. Most of the films are bad anyway.  20% Unaffected: I don’t live near Joburg or CT.  16% 02 Mar 2006 Have you ever been to a steambath? Total Votes: 218 Yes once, but really just to check it out.  9% A few times. It can be fun if you’re in the mood.  37% Yes. But I really had a terrible time.  3% I go pretty regularly - a man has needs!  16% Nope. I go elsewhere for one night stands.  9% Never. I’m not into casual sexual encounters.  27% 24 Feb 2006 Fast food: What is your favourite kind of take-out meal? Total Votes: 157 Chicken - grilled or fried  25% Pizzas and pastas  29% Hamburgers and chips  16% Indian or Thai Curries  10% Salads and healthy stuff  11% I don’t eat take-aways  8% 16 Feb 2006 Most of our day is spent at the office, but are you out at work? Total Votes: 196 Of course. Everyone knows I’m gay.  47% I’m only out to a couple of people.  16% I don’t know. It’s never been discussed.  10% Not really. It’s none of their business.  11% Nope. I actively present myself as straight.  11% I’d like to be, but it’s a conservative place.  5% 08 Feb 2006 Valentine’s Day looms! Do you believe in true love? Total Votes: 156 Absolutely! Soulmates, fidelity and love forevermore.  26% Yes I do. But I think it’s actually quite uncommon.  35% I think so. But I’m still waiting for it to happen to me.  19% Not really. I think it’s just an unrealistic fantasy.  8% Nope. It’s just chemicals and hormones messing with us.  13% 02 Feb 2006 Would you pay for a gay South African television channel? Total Votes: 213 Absolutely! I’d support any media that represents us  30% Sure, but it will probably depend on how much it costs.  21% Maybe. But I guess it’s all about what shows it offers.  31% I’d consider it – but only if it screened adult content.  7% Nope. I don’t want to watch gay TV – just good TV.  12% 26 Jan 2006 Do you think that people’s star signs really mean anything? Total Votes: 143 Yes, absolutely! They are very accurate.  9% They’re usually right about people’s personalities.  33% Maybe, but I don’t think they can predict the future.  24% I don’t really know. But horoscopes are fun anyway.  14% Oh please. It’s all a load of nonsense.  20% 17 Jan 2006 A recent spate of rains made some dash out and buy more underwear, whilst others started going "free Willy"... So what are your underwear habits? Total Votes: 231 I only buy international designer labels.  23% I'm still wearing underwear my mother gave me.  2% I buy my jocks at Woollies or Edgars.  46% I get mine really cheap and nasty.  3% I don't wear underwear at all. Ever.  26% 11 Jan 2006 Are you a foodie? Is cooking pain, pleasure or just simply tedious? Total Votes: 127 I enjoy cooking meals most nights.  43% It’s a pain, but I have no other choice.  6% I hate cooking! Someone else does it.  10% I live out of packets & ready meals.  13% I always eat out or at friends’ homes.  2% I don’t cook daily, but for special occasions.  25% 03 Jan 2006 Which was the biggest celebrity story of 2005? Total Votes: 149 Michael Jackson's media trial.  48% Brad and Angelina’s relationship.  32% Anything to do with Paris Hilton.  1% Britney and Kevin’s chaotic life.  3% The boys and girls of Idols 2005.  8% Robbie William's ongoing antics.  8%