Comments on: THE EX FACTOR https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Tue, 07 Mar 2006 00:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Captain https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4686 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4686 Hmm…. I could tell a few stories about my exes. Like the time I caught my boyfriend with my best friend who was supposed to be giving us couples counselling. Hehe. I can laugh about it now. Share your stories here!

]]> By: Aristogien https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4687 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4687 Ahah!. Yip we’ve all done that … trying to be the winner in the game we all like to call “who will get fat and die first” … let it go … like the failed relationship. Too many good things in life to look forward to …

]]> By: bonj69 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4688 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4688 ex’s. well it happens 2 all of us – smile & cope is my motto.

]]> By: zoloft https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4690 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4690 ex! damn. Awesome article! After a seven year partnership I kicked fckface out coz he had an affair that he told me about. VERY bad split. Then he moved in with the 22 year old! That was 9 months ago and I am still sore. They have since broken up too. And he wants to be friends all of a sudden. Go out for dinners et al. What should I do??? By the way – I got the house and the dogs! Scarlett O’Hara had nothing on what I was capable of dears 😉 And he put on a few kgs too. What bliss. While I am back to a firm and slim 76.

]]> By: Alias https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4694 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4694 The X-word!. Well, my first break-up ever didn’t go that well. I went through hell while he went off and had a fab life…or so I thought! 5 years later he is single, fat, has no job, back at mom and dad and is seeing 20 phycologists! One shouldn’t gloat – but I bellieve in Karma…what comes around, goes around.

Then there is the other ex… total different story! Parted on good terms. Our relationship didn’t work because of other factors(long distance etc.) We’re still friends, but I’ll always think of him as THE ONE! He is involved now, and so am I, but I’ll always sit with that “what if” scenario. (Kinda reminds me of Gwen Stefani’s video of COOL… for those who’ve seen it)

]]> By: hurtlostandsaved https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4695 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4695 Ex…Eish. Well, I had my first full fledged gay relationship with sleepovers, Sunday morning breakfast and “Bore- to- death couples events” about a year ago… Went well, I was in love, I had all intentions of making it last forever…

Enter HIS ex… We started becoming friends, and my dear loving partner started drifting away from me bit by bit, and it just got worse the more I fought to keep him in my life and loving me. So where does this ex of HIS fit in I hear you ask…

Well, I thought he was trying to break us up, trying to make me doubt “the love of my life”… He always told me about how he and my ex met, interacted and how things were towards the end. It was like he was telling me what was happening to me… I got suspicious, did a few sleuth moves… And the cheating bastard was caught red handed on an internet dating site making more dates than he could handle in a year (explains why I saw so little of him towards the end…)

Well, we broke up, I was devastated, cried a lot, went through drug binges… With my ex’s ex helping me slowly pick up the pieces… We became very close friends… No sex… No gain to him, just pure friendship. Then I met my current boyfriend, things went okay for a while.

My ex still haunted me… He was always in the back of my mind. I couldnt commit to the gorgeous being of a guy I had in my life, because my heart still very much belonged to my ex… I picked fights so My current would leave me to simmer in my own misery, but he held on for dear life.

Slowly acceptance came, I accepted Mr Ex will never be mine again… things was okay.

One night I walk into the Club (I am very well known, and very involved in a Gay club on the East Rand) Expecting the usual pleasantries and smiles, I have forgotten the Times ex and I had there, and he never went there anymore, untill that night… I saw him with someone else. SCARLET MOMENT…. Run outside with my poor current en tow… breathing like a hyperventilating hippo… Crying… feeling hurt.

I never saw him again after that night (my ex I mean…) I am still together with my WONDERFUL current… he stuck by me in a very bad time plagued by my ex’s memory… Even when I wanted to break up with him he didnt give up, just continued loving me… I am moving on Next month My FIANCEE and I move into our new townhouse. How will I react if I see my ex again… Who knows, but my life is on track. and he has also moved on… no need dwelling on the past

]]> By: Thundercat https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4698 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/03/07/the-ex-factor/#comment-4698 YAY. I look back at waht seemed like THE END OF LIFE and wonder what the hell i was thinking. Glad that i moved on and glad that i am where i am now.

YAY!

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