Comments on: HAYDEN’S HIV DIARY: INTERNET LOVE https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Tue, 26 Sep 2006 00:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Bubbles https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5120 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5120 Not so strange…. I don’t find it as strange that nost of us even on this dating site that we do not reveal our HIV status. Most of us even shautter at the thought of revealing our real identity let alone the personal info…Bieng HIV+ apparently not attractive as Hayden has mentioned in his article…so are people with: a bit of weight on them;not deemed good looking; not financially stable enough(that’s rich by the way)…And a whole lot more. We as a gay society are the most prejudiced people I know about the most fickle of things. It comes from self doubt that has been transsending from all previous generations who’d been lied to over.
With having said that I believe there is hope as more us are realizing that we have got to bridge the gap between reality and fantasy. I here more talking about things and people taht will fulfill our spiritual lives versus acquiring material posessions. I’m hearing more of us wanting to connect with each other on a positive stable level that will produce good and beautiful relationships. Love and let love…We are learning as we go and once we know better we will do better.

]]> By: Cornflake Boy https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5168 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5168 In reply to Bubbles.

Can I get a Amen!?!. Thanks Bubbles for your input. You are as passionate as Hayden himself and a model and scholar in this fickle community we all so sadly have in common.

But as some wise ‘ol person once said: “A Change Gonna Come!” however slow and painful.

The reality, as Hayden put it, is that we may or may not be aware of the fact that we are sharing our bed and lives with an HIV-positive partner. The issue is how capable are we of accepting it and ironing out the creases as we grow those relationships.

It is sad in SA with it high AIDS rate that we fool ourselves that we will not or have not already slept with someone who has HIV. The virus is not the person and this is what we have to come to terms with, and quickly before we unwittingly expose ourselves to infection.

AMEN to you and Hayden both for taking a stand against these exisiting self-righteous and almost ignorant attitudes about AIDS.

Maybe evolution is really just a state of mind and we are all just cave-men and women in fancy labelled clothing with bigger words that we don’t really understand but make the effort anyway.

Why not make the effort on such a small word as A.I.D.S too?

Never was a Cornflake Girl.

]]> By: wanderer https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5197 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2006/09/26/haydens-hiv-diary-internet-love/#comment-5197 HIV status. I fully agree – my ex BF has full blown aids yet tells guys he is HIV -ve when asked and never wears a condom as “he doesn’t enjoy sex with a condom”.
It is awful to see him with other men knowing full well that he has probably infected them already – and yet I am powerless to do anything about it – yet what he is doing is tantamount to culpable homicide.
something wrong with the law somewhere wouldn’t you say…?

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