Comments on: FIRST DATE BLUES https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Thu, 26 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Andrew https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5815 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5815 First Date Sex. Interesting how different the opinions vary on this one!

My own view: I, much like the author of the article, have difficulties in segregating sex and emotion – particularly if I like the guy. Hence, I know that if I sleep with him on the first date, it’ll be downhill from there for me because I wouldn’t want it to be a once-off shag (especially if it’s good sex!!!).

But, you ought to define for yourselves what the first date is all about: a prelude to a one night stand or perhaps a long-standing friendship, or even a relationship. It’s all about how we control our selves mentally, emotionally and physically.

]]> By: takalani https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5789 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5789 meet n shag [2]. lust! sies!

]]> By: takalani https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5788 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5788 meet n shag?. i simply don’t like the idea of how one can shag with a perfect stranger, on the first date nogal!
its simply degrading. (its simply against what i stand for). i’m no mother terresa, i did it once and i felt awfull for bout a week or two. i vowed never to do it again. and i’m surviving, am proud of my packages and i will flaunt them with pride!

]]> By: zempe https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5787 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5787 sex on a first date. guys life is a risk that must be taken by all who live it. sex on a first date is not always the best thing. i got laid by a preacher of this principle on the first date one time

]]> By: Qhayiya https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5784 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5784 In reply to Spero.

sex on the first date. Spero, you seem to be forgetting that sometimes you have to test drive the goods before you decide to buy them…meaning I have to sleep with someone before I decide to see him again.It is a waste of energy and time to get to know someone you are attracted to, only to find that he can’t take your large dick and it ends up being disastrous sex(especially a mess) or he just wants you for your tool when you have actually grown to like him.
I suggest go on a date , chat , have sex and decide in the morning whether to delete that number or not.Reasons spelt out between the two of you of course,then move on depending on whether you are looking for love or sex.At the end of the day you need to have fun ,and for some of us that entails sex

]]> By: Weazle https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5782 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5782 This one time at band camp. mmmm all I can say is been there done that got the t-shirt…. and only advice i can say is dont compromise on your personal rules… just because you broke it once doesn’t mean you should keep breaking it… I still try damndest to keep my rule of no shag on first date… and I’m happy and proud I do!

]]> By: dookey https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5781 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5781 OMG. The world is still a priss place! Why else would you go on a date except to get laid? Blessed are the Greek – for that wonderful classical view of sex and sexuality!

]]> By: Spero https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5780 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5780 Amen. As for this articel, i myself would then be in the minority also… how can you sleep with a guy on the first date… Yes its easy enough to, but why should we in order to see them again.. People should like you for you and not for your body what youare able to do with it. Hey, we all slip up, but we learn from our mistake…>>>

]]> By: lucky https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5779 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5779 sometimes sex is the only way to get a guy to stop talking…. It might be a rather crued and candid thing to say
but I have done the deed on first dates, simply to get the guy to stop talking..
I mean, it might be rather cavalier of myself to do so..
but i have really tried to follow this exact “no sex on the first date” rule.. with very little succes i must say…
my first was a one night stand “moron” i guess thats exatly where the problem is rooted.
I’m one of the guys who thinks sex is the way to keep a man, but alas it seems its simply a way to keep a man from talking. “which in some cases, the silence is a blessing, to bored ears”

]]> By: lucky https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5778 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/04/26/first-date-blues/#comment-5778 sometimes sex is the only way to get a guy to stop talking…. It might be a rather crued and candid thing to say
but I have done the deed on first dates, simply to get the guy to stop talking..
I mean, it might be rather cavalier of myself to do so..
but i have really tried to follow this exact “no sex on the first date” rule.. with very little succes i must say…
my first was a one night stand “moron” i guess thats exatly where the problem is rooted.
I’m one of the guys who thinks sex is the way to keep a man, but alas it seems its simply a way to keep a man from talking. “which in some cases, the silence is a blessing, to bored ears”

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