Comments on: WATCH OUT! THE DUDE’S A PLAYER https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Thu, 07 Jun 2007 00:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Huge https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5922 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5922 players exposed. I really enjoyed this article. The comments are a hoot!! Will this page become the new blog to expose all the players? I do hope so. Think it will be quite saucy. It wouldn’t give you the the warm fuzzy feeling but i’m sure it would add a extra 1cm to your smile.

]]> By: i-spy https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5924 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5924 just be honest!. my 2 cents? too many profiles read the peson is looking for a relationship, when, in fact, he is not. that’s what i have a problem with. i hardly ever hit on profiles where the person has omitted ‘relationship’ from ‘looking for.’

no problem if you are just looking for nsa fun – just be honest and upfront. but its players that give dating sites a bad reputation.

i KNOW we cant be attracted to everyone we meet, but once again, be honest. if you are hounded by someone who feels something for you and the feeling is not mutual, just drop a line: thanks, but regret, i dont thin we are a match. i’ll have a lot more respect for you!!!

recently, on a different site, i chatted to this ‘amazing’ guy online for a few days. i really felt there was a connection, he was making all the right noises, looking for a relationship, no messy break up he’s getting over, no drugs etc. i felt comfortable enought to go to his place for the first date. WOW, half way through coffee we landed up in bed for hours….

well, i had luch plans and so did he and we went our seperate ways. i got home messaged him to say thanks. i sent a 2nd message to ask if it was just a once off, or could we see each other again. 3 days later i messaged him again, but no reply – still see him lurking online OFTEN and think: what an asshole!

]]> By: choclateminx https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5925 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5925 In reply to Huge.

players exposed. i also enjoyed the article and appreciate the bitter truths it revealed about the guys we date.
i have come across numerous of them ,many of whom ,from this site, i selt a rat and sent them packing.

cheers to the auther of “the dudes a player”. i look foward to reading more insightful mateial from him.

]]> By: lucky https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5929 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5929 Players are in us all… Well
To be Honest, I liked the article… but the fact of the matter, is we all have a bit of player inside of us… I wouldnt like to think of myself as one, but I certainly have had my fair share of First encounter “fireworks” without the “follow up”, leading to a loss of contact.
Sometimes we meet a guy, we get this instant feeling of “Awe” towards him, but within a matter of days that feeling disapates, (we show our best to people, but sometimes its just not good enough) so do i become a player simply because I dicontinue contact with someone who simply isnt what I expected…?

To me there is no single type of player, I have been played, hell.. my first time.. turned out to be just another conquest on his very busy path..

I wouldnt justify the actions of “the guy who makes you fall for him, and then simply, turns on the cold shoulder..” and hell I have experienced that chill from the perfect guy, many a time.. but we all do the same to others, be it conciously or sub conciously..

besides.. this article shouldnt emphasise how to spot players, but more like.. ( give guidelines how to meet people who are at the same stage of development for you) that would be really usefull..
the reason I say this is because, when I was first coming out in my teens, and I went on an exchange year to germany and then after that to london, it was like i was a little boy again in a candy store, and every thing sweet needed to be licked, and this is common amongst many of us.. its not a players game, just a path of exploration..

ps. Pointless comments to share, “I know”.. but im bored..

]]> By: funx2 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5932 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5932 Im a player. Hump ’em and dump’em !!!!!

]]> By: Oh Yes https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5964 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2007/06/07/watch-out-the-dudes-a-player/#comment-5964 Players rule. SO what? Can’t stand the heat, get out of the sex game. We’re providing a service, at least the next guy who gets him will appreciate his dedication.

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