Comments on: PLAYING THE AGE GAME https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Thu, 10 Jan 2008 22:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: jasonsboy https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6509 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6509 i dig older. At 27, I’m 14 yrs younger that my partner. We’ve been going for 8 yrs now…and it’s just GREAT! So I suppose it depends on the person!!

]]> By: Dart https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6479 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6479 Can it Last?. Hmmm, I’m 40 and my partner 20. I think it has something to do with the standard male tendency to seek a mentor. This allows men not only to grow attached across generational boundaries, but to even prefer such a relationship. However, it also begs the question whether the relationship is sustainable over a longer term and especially as life partners (not that other gay relationships usually stand the test of time, huh? But still). I often worry for my younger partner, even though we’re in this as equals and enjoy each other in every respect. What will he do when I grow old and decrepit? I am sure he will love and respect me, but of life partnership there might not be anything left to speak of. I am happy alone though and would not be too phased if he decided to look for someone else, and we have discussed that he might end up as an older man with difficulty relating to other people in his own or younger age group and therefore frustrated with the situation, but we have decided to live in the moment. We really do love each other, and for now that is enough. And the other benefits we have from each other’s company are just bonuses ;-). I really don’t think there’s much scientifically researchable about the subject. It’s highly personal, and we should each decide for ourselves. If it works, then we’re luckier than most.

]]> By: Romano https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6478 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6478 double click. personally I think its about the cliched click. If i meet someone younger or even older than me, a certain criteria is always in place. Hmmm is that why I am still single?

]]> By: PB https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6476 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6476 Wondering?. I find your comments interesting. History would tell us that in Ancient Greece, it was custom for an older man to have a younger male partner and then later a wife. With my internet dating experience, I have noticed similar trends. Have a look at our local dating sites and you will more than often see that men prefer other men roughly 5-7 years younger or older than themselves. Go look at a datiing page such as a country like Romania and you will see that the younger guys mostly prefer much older guys. I thought about this and decided to maybe pin it down to the lack of jobs and security the younger guys have, due to the fact that Romania used to be part of the communist past and coming out still very much anti their culture.

]]> By: B https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6475 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6475 Younger guys. Really great subject – thank you.
Im into younger guys, god only why knows but I am. I have had really great longer relationships with guys and I know that these have not been for financial gain. I just wish I knew the reason for this attraction. I have been in boys only boarding schools from the age six right though to seventeen, is this the reason, or is it possibly because of an absent father fighure in my life that I seem too want to be the protector in the relationship, I would love to know.
I hope this subject keeps going as I would love to hear other guy opinions , comments and suggestions. I know this is a big thinng as there arfe even sites like daddyhunt going so I know I am not of a minority, there are plenty of daddys andd hunter out there.

]]> By: perplexed https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6474 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6474 age differential. U know, it is sucha pity that so often importatn and interesting topics are soooo poorly dealth with in ‘feature articles” here.

the Freddy le Man piece is superficial, under-researched, and sooo stuck in all the “conservative” (should one not say reactionary?) accounts that tend to stigmatise transgenerational relationships.

It’s a great pity that u SEEM unable to find someone who could write informedly, interestingly, intelligently about such issues. Nobody is really interested in what somebody’s opinion is, esepcially when their opinion is, in this case, so trite.

could u try to do better?

]]> By: berlin https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6473 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6473 Sugar?. yep clinical psycology puts it @ not to date 7y older or younger than urself. & a more symmetrical age/ $$/headspace relationship is always preferrable, especially with long term views. Statistically guys under 30 have just too much ‘wild oats’ still onboard: nobody questions the ability to do fidelity, but it seems almost unfair to be ‘trapped’ in longer than 3month relationships: With younger guys ur always looking ova ur shoulder, my nerves will be FINISHED in no time…

]]> By: Misty https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6472 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6472 Age gap means nothing!. When I was young, I preferred older men. They were so much more interesting and uncomplicated than my peers, who created oscar-level dramas performances out of the most vulgar situation. Older men treated me well, spent money on me, new exactly how to please me sexually and gave me a sense of safety/ comfort. They were not jealous or possessive. Their words of wisdom put me where I am today: successful. Now I see that I am the older man to my boyfriend 11 years younger than me.
Age gaps allow a greater sharing of experience and wisdom. These relationships are so much more enriching!

]]> By: Raverabbits https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6471 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6471 Younger boys. I 2nd U on ur opinion an dteh things taht u see regarding the younger boy older man thing. However, we as a couple (37 and 38) prefer peers as our friends, not only do they thing the same,due same era born, but also we have alot in common. The prob we having is that even early 30’s guys thing us to old and over the wall, so we start making friends and chatting with guys in there 40’s and what a pleasure group to be with. What I learned mostly of my older friends, to hell what people think of you, just do it. So my message to the gays out there, get over the age thing, there is more to life than being pretentious over age, u gonna get older too and wiser. God Speed!

]]> By: Siltek https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6470 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2008/01/10/playing-the-age-game/#comment-6470 Age issue. It is so true that younger man are dating older man my little research has infomred that they (the young ones) belive the older man give them security ( in this case social security) , comfort not really users like their age group and the sense of responsibility, Yes other issues like financial secuirity sometimes do appear to be a reallity , Pick me up, drop me there are easy with an older man you know?

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