Comments on: TOO OLD FOR CAPE TOWN

By: bewe

bewe — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Chocolate. snr citizen. Therapy where are you can not wait for it to re-open
Had the best times of my life there ( as a snr citizen beyond 30)

By: creigbbear

creigbbear — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

too old for the Mother City. Dear Al,

Ag Shame Skat!
u should try being 43 in the Mother City – it’s a real Bitch… I say leave the label queens who’ve OD’d on lala land and come to the bears we’ll dip you in chocolate and make you feel right at home
x-mwah!

By: Chocolate

Chocolate — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Randy. 40s. Hey guys,

I agree, "to each his own!" Look around and you'll see that guys in their mid 30 - 40s are taking better care of themselves and have a much more wholesome and positive outlook on life.

And for this reason alone I find myself attracted to this and to them, bring on the Salt and Pepper Daddy anyday *smiley*

Age is nothing but a number! Lets not let it rule our lives. Go out there and show them what you still can do at 40 and ask if they'll be able to do the same when they get there or will they have "burnt out?"

Oh, and could I suggest that Therapy does seem to be a club that is kind to guys in their "prime." Hence, you'll find me there.

See you there soon... Daddy!

By: Cole

Cole — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Too old for CT. sad, sad, sad lives of gay men…

By: Jaric

Jaric — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Martin. what nonsense. oh bleh. I've been with my boyfriend for going on 10 years and we are 21 years apart. we've based our relationship on friendship from the start and i still call him "my boy" because he's so YOUNG AT HEART. He can party up a storm and will give a lot of 20 and 30-somethings a run for their money in looks and athletisism..... if you get my drift. My boyfriend and I share a lot in common and we've been through the mill together.

"If you place a thing in the centre of your life that lacks the power to nourish, it will eventually poison everything that you are. Be is a simple a thing as an idea or your perspective of yourself or the world. No one can be the source of your content. It lies within. In the centre."

If you're going to judge somebody on their age and diss them because they're "too old", its basically saying that you're a shallow person, your loss and you probably wont get very far in life anyway.

By: Jaric

Jaric — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Randy. welcome to the club.... With a name like Randy and you have a hard time?

By: Blurb

Blurb — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Sing it sistah. Hahaha you make me laugh Al… Only you could make something so traumatising so hilarious to read! I think I may stay away from Bronx for a while…at least until my next facial peel!

By: Martin

Martin — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Huh???. I’m an average looking 40 year old guy living in JHB. I was in Barcelona and Lisbon on holiday recently and felt very welcome at their gay bars/clubs and “discotecas”. There were clubs in Barcelona, especially, that cater for the older man and where thirty-, forty- and fifty-year olds were the majority.
As soon as I got back to Joburg (and, from what this article says, Cape Town is no different) I went to a gay bar in Melville, only to be made to feel like an old perv (not by management, but by some patrons). In South Africa, a gay man over the age of 40 (not 24) is considered a bit of an outcast in the local scene. Most of us are settled, are economically stable and want to enjoy what life has to offer. We have a lot of money to spend. I cannot understand why in this country older gay men’s existence is ignored by the entertainment industry (bars, clubs, etc…).
Not all of us enjoy walking in the dark, disease-ridden sex-clubs and adult cinemas of this world. Not all of us enjoy soaking our bodies in someone else’s sweat and dirt at the local baths. So, why isn’t there a bar/club where mature gay men can go to without being made to feel like old pervs?
Al Mackay, If you think that 22 year old’s comment is shocking, then just wait until you’re 40. You won’t even go into a gay venue, because everyone will make you feel old. I know this sounds depressing, but don’t worry, because the sex does get better with age, and you will get guys in their twenties begging you for sex. But on an emotional level, you will still be “too old” for a relationship.

By: somepeopledo

somepeopledo — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

This side of the Mountain….!!!. Yes, our bodies change and we grow older, it is a debt that we all pay. However, to say that in your 20ties is the only time your attractive is not right. Men are at their biological/mental prime in mid life. So the shallow capetonians who are either this side of the mountain or that side of the mountain can swim in their shallow, cold sea.

By: BeB4

BeB4 — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Nah…. Sure, there are those guys that are attracted exclusively to younger guys and will see someone at their own age as being too old for them – what the heck, it’s their good right (and I am one of them at age 42). Luckily, there are also younger guys attracted to older guys; so while some 20-odd year-olds shun me as a pervert, others want to hang around with me. I consider that normal. To each his own, and as long as we are all happy in our relationships, who’s to say what another should be satisfied with.

The only problem with HUGE age difference is permanence in that relationship, and who can say which partner gets the worse end of the stick? The youngster might get tired of the older guy and leave him unable to find another young partner or the older guy might age or even die on the younger. I live in the moment and am happy that I have loved for today. If tomorrow holds less, then at least I have lived today. No regrets, and no questions, as long as the sun is at my back, I intend to smile, live, love and be happy.