Comments on: SHALL WE DANCE? https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Wed, 21 Jan 2009 22:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Anonymous https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7997 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7997 atlast something good and beautiful to read on mamba

]]> By: Clive https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8019 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8019 In reply to Anonymous.

response to comment. Appreciate the comment and your views. I’ve responded to this comment on my blog:

ramblerclive.blogspot.com

]]> By: Jeanine https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8014 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8014 …. So well written clive. Thanks for this.

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8011 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8011 Blog comment. Re: Church saying gay is only an option if celibate – wtf!!! That is insane. I agree whole-heartedly with your thoughts on that one. That church-goer’s view is the kind of bullshit that keeps me out of churches. But I do believe that they are not all like that.

Lastly and most pertinent to my life right now, the GRIEVING process. I am slap-bang in the middle of that right now. And I am so grateful to you for identifying and normalising it. I have been walking around with this huge sense of loss, which had been exacerbated by the guilt of feeling this way (raises questions of potential internalised homophobia???).

I’m looking forward to emerging out of the grief one day.

Thank-you for speaking OUT, LOUD and PROUD.

]]> By: Jaco https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8010 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8010 In reply to Anonymous.

well spoken, lol!

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8005 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8005 Sorry to say, but I think you’re missing the plot with your article “Shall we dance?”.
There are three elements to be discussed (and not confused):
1) God
2) Religion
3) Homosexuality

Let’s get the elephant out of the room as a departure point. The sooner you separate religion (i.e. ”the church”) from “God” the better. Rather stand back and start thinking for yourself and bring into question the Calvinistic cloak you were raised in with the auspices of Church and Religion.

Homosexuality does not equal grieving! Your five grieving points do not hold water for many gay men – especially the ”have children” part.
Further on the homosexuality front, you step right in the direction of homophobia with your statement “Being a gay man is not something I chose; I don’t believe anyone does, or would.” Correct me if I’m wrong, are you not looking at homosexuality with the exact perspective than that of your ex-church where you had your ”ex-gay battle”? I guess I’m not the ”anyone” you refer to, because if I could choose my sexuality again, I would choose it exactly as it is – GAY – because there is nothing wrong with it to begin with.

Now that you can think free from this mentally suffocating dogma instilled through Church and Religion you will have no fear of living your life as you choose or with any guilt going along with that.
Start thinking and stop believing what Church and Religion dishes out without questioning. Maybe just then will you be able to figure out life, gay or straight, within this amazing Universe.

]]> By: Fiex https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8001 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8001 Awesome topic!!. Very very nice topic – and agreed on the movie. Wasn’t something I’d watch over and over again, but that quote stuck with me for a while!!

]]> By: Jaco https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7999 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7999 In reply to Arno.

Why is it that those of us who really long for an understanding life partner…..do not find such a person?

]]> By: Arno https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7998 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-7998 I agree!. What a great article! I agree completely. I am a Christian and I regularly pray for a life partner. Someone who will witness my life..

]]> By: Ian McMahon https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8037 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/01/21/shall-we-dance/#comment-8037 All your thoughts. What a nice topic – well written and nice responses to from everybody.
well done

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