Comments on: SECRETS OF GAY-SUPER COUPLES https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Wed, 13 May 2009 22:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: BraLucky https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8566 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8566 Andre & Oscar. Andre white 52. Oscar black 32.
Together for 11 years. Still going strong.
It is working well for us.
Secret: Don’t have jealousy in your life.
Don’t ever fight, communicate.

]]> By: Matt https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8567 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8567 Great Article. Great article, all very true. Still in a new relationship (compared to Andre and Oscar – only 3 years, but only 22) but what you say is spot on. Honesty and open communication, about everything no matter how small it may seem, is crucial as a foundation to any relationship.

]]> By: Gennaro https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8569 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8569 Great relationship piece. Very True!!!

]]> By: Pierre https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8570 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8570 11 years. Good article. In a week’s time my husband and I will celebrate our 11 year aniversary. I agree with many aspects of this article.

]]> By: Frosty https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8571 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8571 two things to add. Yup. I agree with all the comments. 4 year anniversary coming up in July. This is good advice for any couple gay or straight. Only two things to add:

1. Each person must have a good understanding of who they are otherwise they’ll feel lost in a relationship and will ultimately lead to some kind of cataclysmal conflict. If you do not understand yourself alone, you’ll never understand yourself with someone else and ultimately the happiness of sharing your life may become a misery.

2. When starting out a new relationship, take note of the things you clash over. Chances are every other clash/fight you’ll have for the rest of the relationship will be different versions of that first clash/fight.

]]> By: Lakor https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8580 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8580 3. They manage conflict productively.

LOL – sorry this is just so funny, just thinking of the much more that happens before we manage conflict productively.

]]> By: Mark https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8628 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8628 It’s a good guideline and common sense. What I object to is the “open relationship” part. Why must that even be mentioned? It would not be mentioned in an article about straight couples. Some of us are 100% monogamous in all our relationships and we don’t need that inferred. It makes us come across as perverts.

]]> By: cptman https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8694 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/05/13/secrets-of-gay-super-couples/#comment-8694 In reply to Mark.

I agree…. Why mention open relationships! I do not see the point of open relationships! It is not a relationship – it is a fuck buddy who you happen to share your life with for whatever reason keeps you together.

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