Comments on: THE TESTOSTERONE CLUB

By: Mitch

Mitch — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

My best friend is straight and he enjoys my company, and has remained my best friend even when others have raised the issue of whether or not he is bi or gay, just because we hang out together. Many guys would have distanced themselves from me out of fear that they might be perceive by others as being gay, just because they assocoated with me. Your article is a little one sided, and even though it is only your experience of the boys club, not all of us dislike doing guy things, like actually doing hard physical work or talking about sport.

By: Weazle

Weazle — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Shame. You poor man! Your inability to blend in with them shows how much alike you are to them. And your poor choice of boys club?? I take huge enjoyment in switching between and enjoying the company of my crotch grabbing, boob fantasing counterpats as I do in flapping princess pre-madona friends. Variety is the spice of life. And their willingness to accept you as one of them shows far more than your lack of willingness to accept them

By: dictionary.com

dictionary.com — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

YIRRE. did the author eat Thesaurus for breakfast?

By: User?

User? — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Cool Article. Dude, I really like your blog. I've been reading your stuff for a while now. I've pretty much read everything. Thank you for giving the gay perspective on life, we don't get much of it in the media.

Funny thing is; all my closest friends are straight. My main group of friends consists of two straight boys and two straight girls, with me being the only gay. The few gay friends I have I mostly just meet them when going out clubbing. Maybe I'm a weird gay guy? Or it probably has to do with the fact that there are more straight people than gays?

Anyways the guys I hang out with are pretty cool. They tell me about the girls they have been chilling out with and I talk about the boys. The girls are pretty interesting and always have something to say. I suppose the male friends feed my masculine side and the female ones feed my feminine side, that way i get the best of both worlds.

By: Pierre

Pierre — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

George. I can see how you could have read the article and come to the conclusion you reached.

However, the fact of the matter is I can cope very well in the testosterone fueled environment I sometimes find myself and kick ass with the best of them with the emphasis on "ass"!

Even though I find myself in a butch working environment and the nature of my work requires me to do "butch" things it is not on my top 10 list of favourite activities I enjoy.

By: berlin

berlin — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to George. Amen Bro!
yet lets not knock others under the GLBT umbrella: theres room 4 all of us, especially in SA celebrate all that cultural diversity. yaay 4 da Rainbow nation!

By: berlin

berlin — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

now its easy to say my upbringing & schooling was more difficult-each to his own-but my problem:i was always butch, being competitive sports came easy & i naturally excelled in all of them. Still to this day i can slide into ‘str8’ mode so easily in bars & work…a gym regular, carrying boxes: no problem. Convincingly being gay & accepted thus: big problem. i get the most incredulous reactions wheneve i pitch smwhere with my bf. oh well *smiley*

By: Raul

Raul — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Accept Yourself First. If you can accept yourself for all you are first, then acceptance of everyone else fems, fats, drags, dykes, butch, muscle, old, black, straight, jew, etc. etc., will come naturally.
We all don’t have to be straight-acting and looking – and you don’t have to bear the responsibility of being PR for all gay people – just yourself.

By: FranTheMan

FranTheMan — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

The straight answer. I enjoyed reading this article, not least because it is something that I have also pondered many times.

To a great extent it must depend on the straight men concerned. I don't know many straight men I can call good friends, but the ones I can have excellent conversation skills, a brilliant sense of humour and most importantly, the ability to hang with the queers as well as the boys.

It's not impossible but you might have to sift through a lot of braai fire conversations about the Springboks, Toyota Hiluxes and koedoes.

By: Gary

Gary — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to George. Amen Brother. I am always amazed at how gay people keep on dissing each other, as if we do not get enough of that from society. It is always gays versus lesbians, or the butch guys against the effemanite guys, or the tops agains the bottoms or whatever. Rather than standing together, we like to take each other out. Are we all hypocrites? Do we perhaps deserve the treatment we get from society?

I am also completely out everywhere, and I like being a guy and doing guy things too. To me there is no difference between me and the next guy except that I am also married to a guy. But that does not give me the right to point a finger to the effeminite gay, the butch lesbian, or anyone different from me. How can we expect the world to accept us if we cannot even accept or tolerate each other?