Comments on: MIKA COMES OUT AS BI https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/09/24/mika-comes-out-as-bi/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Dvine https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/09/24/mika-comes-out-as-bi/#comment-9070 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/09/24/mika-comes-out-as-bi/#comment-9070 I agree and disagree. I have to say something here, I’ve had this debate before that “bi-sexual” guys ultimately turn out gay…..

I feel that when the time comes to let people know about your sexual preferences, it is easier to say that you’re bi-sexual instead of gay. With my family, it left them with some hope of me still bringing a girl home and them ending up with grandchildren……

But the time came when I had to completely honest!!

A label is’nt necessary to define oneself, so to each his own.

]]> By: Jonty85 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/09/24/mika-comes-out-as-bi/#comment-9075 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/09/24/mika-comes-out-as-bi/#comment-9075 What people (gay people too!) find unnerving about bisexuality is its fluidity. I am a gay-identified bisexual (meaning that I identify AS bisexual but identify WITH the gay & lesbian community more than straight people) and wish to assure all doubters and naysayers that bisexuality does exist.

It’s just very fluid; generally I’m more into guys but the occasional woman does it for me too. I’m highly likely to end up with a male life partner but the possibility exists that I could end up with a woman.

I prefer gay social spaces, go to Pride, attend the OIA Film Festival, etc, but believe that such events and events should increasingly became mainstreamed and integrated.

In the same way that gay people want to homophobes to stop negating their sexual identity by saying that gay people aren’t born that way, so gay people should stop negating the sexual identity of bisexuals. If someone says they’re bisexual (even if it’s a lie and cover-up) then leave it at that. If they’re scared to say they’re gay, they’ll come out properly in their own time. If they’re really bisexual, it’s not anyone’s place to tell them it’s not true.

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