Comments on: THE MAN IN THE MIRROR https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Wed, 07 Oct 2009 22:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: nector https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9114 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9114 shame on me. I have to admit I ve got a high level of yes answers to these question.
But noone can deny that the heterosexist part of the society is advertising lot better than the gay society.
The familial life looks so selfdriven though the numerous failures that we witness everyday. While gay life looks such a daily struggle!

]]> By: Grosmo https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9132 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9132 In reply to Anonymous.

I agree with you completely

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9130 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9130 well narrated………….

]]> By: overbergdude https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9129 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9129 Thanks!. I ticked “yes” to all 15 questions. So, I guess I should be on my way up to the 13th floor of some random building in Cape Town so as to plunge to my death by crawl jumping out of a tiny toilet window? Lol, I think not. But yes, it is kak hard on a daily basis. It’s affected me so much that I am totally ashamed of who I am and often wish I could turn back time to when I was 18 again, the day before I drank to much red wine and literally fell out of the closet. But people also aren’t stupid. You can’t hide it no matter how str8 acting you are. It’s all a game I guess. Str8 men and women do ugly things to their gay counterparts for obvious reasons. And it is these ugly things that make us believe we are useless or wrong or even “fucked up”. But with everything you lose, there is something you gain. The friends you make are for life. After a period of time you come to know those who you really can trust. You know how to handle difficult situations without having to get your shirt dirty and you most probably end up giving a lot of str8 guys serious 2nd thoughts because they do imagine it to be far tighter. It’s the keeping quiet and trying to hide it that get’s people talking and scheming. Say it but don’t say it I say… Check the scene out carefully and get to know peoples weaknesses before they see yours. Your article came a few year’s to late for me Jacques. I’ve already found my a solution and a way out of the issues you highlighted. Think of it this way – imagine you worked in a office environment and majority of the guys were gay. The str8 boys will be quiet and will most probably feel exactly as this article made you first feel after first reading it…

]]> By: 1985minotaur https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9124 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9124 Come now. As Catherine Tate’s “Nan” character would say:

“What a load of old wallop! What a fucking liberty!”

Pseudo researched gobshite dressed up as pop psychology! Qeustion 3: what an assumption that thinking the kind of sex you have or who you have it with IS an important part of who you are makes for a positive self-image.

How fucking pre-Foucault retro 1950s pseudo Havelock Ellis are we gonna get with these scientistic investigations into sexualities?

NGO indeed: no great outfit for useful information. “internalised homophobia” belongs in the same category of pseudo-scientific concepts like “reverse racism”, “inverse racism”, “military intelligence”, “spousal abuse” (it’s femicidal violence or woman battery!).

]]> By: Andy https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9122 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9122 true, but let’s generalize for just a split second…. andysbanter.blogspot.com

]]> By: flint1 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9119 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9119 the very essence. well done mate! VERY! iys aiding me!

]]> By: Barryster https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9116 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9116 In reply to nector.

Look I’m inclined to agree with what is written here, primarily because gay kids do have an exceptionally high stress level to overcome (sadly, many fall before crossing threshold). Reading what dude25 says was very entertaining, but from the perspective of mental well-being, it’s a harder life. Gay guys have such complex personalities that it’s clear that a mind that can weave such intricate lies, defense mechanisms, witty retort and layered personalities WHILE a teenager, is capable of weaving much more dangerous circumstances once grown up. To straight folk, our default personality as a collective seems to be ‘sarcastic bitch’ – neither of these two adjectives is a complement you’d give a well-adjusted human being.

]]> By: dude25 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9115 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9115 What a load of….. What a load of BS!!!

I have so had it up to hear with this poltical correctness garbage.

Not content with making us feel bad for crossing the street. The liberal agenda has now shifted to make us belive that we in fact hate ourselves.

PLEASE give me a F-ING break. Im sorry that I don’t feel the need to go prancing around shopping malls, wearing my rainbow coloured dress with matching streamers and please tell me what going out and drinking has to do with anything?

Who ever wrote this swil should go back to there hippy compound and smoke some more weed and contemplate focusing there energy somewhere else.

We don’t live in a perfect world and each person’s enviroment influences who they are and how they act in public.

Now please excuse me while I go puke up the two cocktails I drank after dinner.

]]> By: Jaco https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9133 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/2009/10/07/the-man-in-the-mirror/#comment-9133 Internalization. Thanks for a fab article. Please let us have more of the same high quality journalism!

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