However, reality must rule, and as a 43 year old biological father to an awesome 25 year old daughter, and an adoptive father to an amazing 4 year old son, it is necessary to point out that at 62, being a parent to a little boy is not easy. Boys especially, require a high level of physical energy, and constant attention. I know, at 43 I find it physically challenging, and while my partner and I have an amazing nanny, its his parents that he needs.

After a long day at the office, one does not have the option of handing baby to nanny! Also, weekends DO NOT belong to you. Life centres around your child, his physical and social life.

On the upside, being a parent is amazing, wonderful, spiritually and emotionally fulfilling.

However, there is one constant: IT IS NO LONGER ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER, AND YOUR OWN NEEDS AND DESIRES – BUT THEIRS! AND IT IS LIFELONG!

There are many well adjusted children brought up in gay families as there are equally well adjusted gay children of striaght families.
This has been quite well documented in various studies.
Far to many straight , people have children without thinking of the consequences and the obligatons. With any surrogacy , much thought is needed and a conscious decision has to be made and discussed and in general this makes for much more thoughtful parenting skills.
Good luck to Elton and David .

Gay Parents. So, what about single mothers, single fathers, grandmothers raising their grandchildren, and the vast numbers of families headed by children, due to the loss of parents to HIV/AIDS? Your sentiments are honourable but misguided. They are no longer relevant in 2010.

Martin – So Wrong Of You…. Martin, you are misguided. I hope, not self-righteous. I was raised by my father, without a mother. Although I am gay, my brother is not ? assuming you might think this is the reason I am gay. All three of my siblings are not gay.

On the other hand, it is stupid for anyone to even dare to argue that that children are better off left to old age homes were they are parentless ?NO FATHER AND NO MOTHER. Which is better, Martin? In these old age homes, they are usually ? more often than not ? worse off. Maybe it is because you don’t know what it’s like to be an orphan and not to ever have a stable and real home.

Two parents is every child’s right. So we should abolish divorce …?