Comments on: MY WAY OR THE HIGH GAY https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Wed, 10 Apr 2013 16:31:18 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: M https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12262 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12262 Blown away!. I am blown away by this man’s maturity. It took me 20 years to come to some of the conclusions this guy has come to. His words echo quite accutarely what I feel, but have not expressed to anyone. Thanks!!!!

]]> By: Wil https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12136 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12136 wow…. what a great read….I didnt want it to end *smiley*

Seriously though, isnt this what we ourselves have created as community? What a shame we only realise that this aint important when we are going on 30 or older, whilst in our 20’s, we are invincible, because everyone wants us … we are those red cherries, waiting to be plucked *smiley*

Yes – maybe the newer generation, growing up in a more open society will truly learn from the mistakes that some of us have made …

Moving forward… its time to let go of the insecurities and live in the NOW.

]]> By: Relate https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12135 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12135 These word are true . Quiete the reality of what I want

]]> By: Hindi_Indi https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12134 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12134 Hard wired. We can’t get past the fact that we’re men and men being men seem to need to have sex to feel love unlike women who for the most part seemed wired to need things the other way around. We get visually fixated, it’s in our nature.
I’m convinced that the way past it, is to match values and interests and to allow time and love to blind you to imperfections.
No doubt it is work but when the alternative is such loneliness can we really afford not to put in the effort?

]]> By: hindi_indi https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12133 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12133 In reply to Leon.

your 2 cents. i agree completely.

]]> By: Phil https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12132 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12132 Feel yah bro. Interesting read. Couldn’t help but nod and chuckle through out reading this. I guess I’m not alone 🙂

]]> By: Leon https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12131 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12131 Hi Bruce
I think you have captured it very well. From the comments it seems eveerybody is agreeing on what was said.

The problem is we want to do things the wrong way round – first get into bed and then spent time with the person only to find out it was lust and not love that made thee decision.

We need to, in spite of our needs, do things the right way and become friends and then take the next steps. We cannot be lovers if we are not friends first and foremost. If we can get this right, we would be able to sort out / avoid a lot of pitfalls.

Trust my 2 cents adds value to this discussion

]]> By: Danie https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12128 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12128 Great stuff!. How I wish there were more guys like him! These are the kind of guys I like but very hard to find 🙁

]]> By: Leon https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12127 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12127 real gay men. will the real gay men please stand up, the ones who are men on the outside but who are in touch with their emotions!

if men acted more like woman, then there would not be all this heartache that we have to endure. i know that love and pain goes hand in hand. but why are we lead to believe that love does exist, but its sometimes the hardest thing to find real love. i would be happy if you could tell me where to find it, because its very elusive. men generally want sex or nsa. i thought that being gay at least meant that being a man you actually are in tune with your feelings, but i guess i never read the fine print, they come in various shapes and sizes and i mean it literally.

i can probably go on bitching about this, as i have been called a queen in such a regard, but if there is one thing i can guarantee is that i would rather be a queen who knows that love only happens with trust, honesty and communication and not just being used as a one night stand.

so to all the little scared boys out there, too afraid of their feelings and falling in love, go home to your mothers or learn to grow a pair.

real love is loving someone no matter what, its unconditional and it has no expectations!

]]> By: Mysterio https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/06/20/my-way-or-the-high-gay/#comment-12126 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=17487#comment-12126 lonely 2. hi Bruce

looking for love in the wrong places, well send me a message on mamba and you’ll definitely find love in the right place.

Mysterio

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