Comments on: MR. GAY WORLD RESPONDS TO AFRIKAANS SINGER FURORE

By: Cintamani

Cintamani — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Femmes are likely equally annoying to both gay and straight people but the community and the world would not be the same without them. I’m not ever going to date one but love them no less for who they are, just as they are. No lines have been crossed here.

By: Gregory Taylor

Gregory Taylor — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I attended an all-boys’ school from the age of 8 years old right through to the age of 18. After finishing senior school, I had to do compulsory military training and I served my country for the full duration of the national service. This was during the “Apartheid” days when South Africa was still very conservative and segregated. From an early age of 3 years old, my parents recognised that I was different from other little boys. I was often bullied and teased by the other boys at school. My school life is something that I have chosen not to remember well, because it is just too painful. I didn’t know why I was so-called “effeminate”, it’s just how things were. For me, it seemed so natural to be like that, just as natural as it appeared for some boys to swagger when they walked and to be very in touch with their masculine side. I honestly wished that I could be masculine like them and really did persevere. It wasn’t that I was weak, because I was tough, but I still retained more feminine traits than masculine one’s. Some may have perceived this as an exaggeration of the feminine traits or that I was deliberately trying to get attention. I can honestly say, that I wasn’t trying to draw attention to myself at all. In fact, I had very low self-esteem and contemplated suicide. It was never my intention to offend anyone by the way I walked or held myself. After many years, I began to strive towards being more “straight-acting”. However, this felt unnatural to me and it was an act. My life had become a stage and at the age of 20, I decided to be true to myself and others. My family and close friends have been so supportive and if it hadn’t been for their strong love, I would most surely have ended my life. I still carry the emotional scars from my childhood years and still to this day, I have hang-ups about being seen as “effeminate”. It would be wonderful, if people didn’t judge the LGBTI community so harshly, but sadly, I think this will still continue for many years. LGBTI people that haven’t even been born yet, will probably suffer the same ridicule somewhere in the world. When I read this article about Andre Swiegers, it disturbed me so much, because it is not necessary for some people to put others down, particularly the minority groups who are not bringing physical harm to anyone. Mr Swiegers, please try to see things from our perspective. What if one of your children or close relatives was very different from the so-called “norm” and people were making fun of him/her? How would you feel? It doesn’t mean to say that because you expressed those thoughts publicly on your own wall page, that you are a bad person. Not at all, it just means that you are probably unaware of the ramifications that your public thoughts will have on others. You are a public figure and some may see you as their hero, therefore some of your fans could feel that because Andre Swiegers thinks it is ok to make fun of us, then they can too. Anyway, all we can hope for is a better world for all of us. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

By: Jaco Pieterse

Jaco Pieterse — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I agree with Francois. I would like to add: We must respect others the way we want to be respected. If someone wants to “flap” – let them. They do not tell you what you must and mustnt do. If you do not like it, then ignore it. We do not have to comment on everyone and everything. You might not know the reason behind that persons way of acting and therefore has no right to comment.

By: IMHO

IMHO — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Jack. No offence Jack, but your comment simply indicates how typically-gay-way-over-the-top-sensitive some/most gay men are. So much so, your kind fail to see fact from flamboyant fantasy. Nowhere in the article do i get the impression Swiegers is out and out (pardon the pun) homophobic. If anything he is merely "queenophobic". There is a difference. About 2kg of base and mascara's difference honey. Sadly it's those who weave their own issues of insecurity into responses like your that turn "queenophobes" into stark raving homophobes.

By: IMHO

IMHO — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to LOL. like

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Who the fuck is this asshole Swiegers anyway … just because he sings a few songs and a few people know who he is doesn’t make him a celebrity. Should we actually give a fuck what he says. We should rather be “comforted” by the fact that it has been proven that homophobic people are the ones with the most skeletons in the closet. *minces off*

By: luiz

luiz — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to LOL. well said @LOL. i think it would be as simple as some friends and fans pressing the dislike button if it comes up on their page! period!

By: luiz

luiz — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

@IMHO, really we are quick to scream i dont “like”. in terms of personal taste (what you would date thats diffrent. But based on the comments of the musician,..thats a bit too harsh. In the community ,you have the many that some how belive the more straig

By: LOL

LOL — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Spoken like a true Beauty Queen …. World Peace….
You know, I really think the gay community has grown over-sensitive. It is in every person’s right to like or not to like something. We don’t HAVE to like everyone. So he doesn’t like flapping queens, that’s his choice, AND he DID post it on HIS PERSONAL Facebook page. Celebrity or not, he is human and entitled to his own opinions, just like we all are, and just because he is a celebrity does not mean he HAS to be gay-friendly, and if he is not that he is a bad person. We all express personal opinions online everyday, but that is all it is, your opinion. Really! We need to stop being so damn easily offended. There are even gay men who don’t like effeminate gays. It is their choice. We expect people to accept US for who we are, yet we are not prepared to extend that courtesy to others. FACT: There will ALWAYS be gays, butch and effeminate. FACT: There will ALWAYS be people who do not like gays. Thats life!

By: Grinch

Grinch — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Go Francois. Well said.