Comments on: PREY

By: Reader_indi

Reader_indi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

The thing about speaking of these things Bruce is that you realise pretty quickly that a large chunk of the population is experiencing or has experienced similar. I find that comforting. It somehow highlights how pointless these insecurities are and as long as we we keep them to ourselves, we allow them to isolate us from the discovery. I agree that self love is the key, if we can get that voice in our heads to repeat positive things about ourselves by rote then eventually we may actually begin to believe. A case of faking it till you make it as it were, well that’s been my experience anyway. Once that self esteem”s built up, it’s pretty difficult to let people into your life that make you feel shit about yourself and, that I think is definitely a step towards getting the right person into your life.

By: Woofie

Woofie — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Very well written and witty piece. Thanks for sharing. hate to say this but I personally am not even THINKING of finding any dates on a social networking sites. I am in fact not dating anymore period. As a gay man I feel my life is threatened by simply stepping out the front door for being gay… guess I will send that application to the Nunnery after all…. Looks like a very lonely life ahead for me….wonder where is the human rights in all of this….! God only knows!

By: Bruce

Bruce — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Thanks so much for the amazing responses and feedback. I really appreciate it.

By: Owda

Owda — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Oddly enough,that’s why I’m here on the Meetmarket, to find that one amazing (business school graduate!) that will tell me how amazing I am.

By: yolan

yolan — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Bruce, You forgot to add devastatingly handsome to your list of flaws. Every time I see you out in a club you’re in a hurry to get…somewhere. I figure it’s cos you’re famous through your acting and am intimidated to say hi. I used to be a slave to the voice inside my head a while back. I got some professional help. I know that sounds patronising but this idea that we can make it in isolation is so …. er 1900’s.

By: E

Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Breathe .. live and enjoy the journey … so what if we mess up every now and then? It is seriously complicated being human, not achieving perfection all of the time is really not that serious.

By: Brett

Brett — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I relate completely, and I think it’s part of the gay condition – we feel we have to prove ourselves because of the social criticism of our lifestyle (there’s another article about that here, but I haven’t read it yet) and our consequent low self-image. It;s called homo-negativity; the unusual trait that even gay people have some internatlised homophobia – “I can’t stand screaming queens”, “I’m straight-acting”. So we NEED affirmation from others. but ultimately end up with soul-destroying nights in grungy clubs looking for love. But I speak for myself of course – some others are undoubtedly better adjusted. I’m addressing the issue by finally admitting my resultant alcoholism.

By: M

Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Wow! I can really see myself in this article. Doesn’t happen that often. Thanks!

By: maybe

maybe — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

over-exposure… we all have had the fakers … more important is to ask why we were so desperate to have it work ??? maybe it is our inner loneliness … and that should be addressed and not the sadness of the people who really trusted someone who would take it to the penultimate …for those people and their families my true symapathies

By: Wayne

Wayne — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Don’t beat yourself up, I think we’ve all done the same thing at least once. At least you realised the error of your ways and will in future, hopefully will be aware and beware. Have a good one*smiley*.