Comments on: THE SECRET ALLURE OF THE STRAIGHT MAN https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Wed, 10 Apr 2013 15:49:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Chowtie https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13849 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13849 I am looking for a men

]]> By: Derek Hougaardt https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13484 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13484 In reply to Derek Hougaardt.

Tebza – Come to think of it, maybe all the guys’s are starring at you cause you look like a weirdo in some way… Weirdo on the weight floor, weirdo in the loo, weirdo it the shower. mmm, that’s also one to think about wont you say????

]]> By: Mark de Clark https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13483 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13483 Loved the article! And agree with you completely! The depressing thing tho’ is that by the time you’ve worked through the insecurities and all the baggage, you are indeed far more confident; the sad fact is that you are also much older! Then the insecurities you have to deal with is a youth obsessed, body beautiful oriented, money fixated gay society. Yes, I have the money; yes, I have the BMW and the house, but the well preserved 44 year old body, with its well earned wrinkles doesn’t inspire the passion and lust that my 30 year old alto ego did. I get amazed when I hear that my straight neighbor (48) was getting down and dirty with his wife’s best friend (she is 51)! Oh! The drama.

]]> By: Derek Hougaardt https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13482 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13482 Tebza, You let it sound that there are allot of gay guys in your gym. I think that you should get over yourself. You say that you feel all eyes are on you at the gym… Guess what, as a proud 100% straight acting gay guy (according to all my work colleges and friends and a title that i will never present myself with) I also notice that about 50% of all the guys in the gym stare. I would say the same about the woman in the gym as well. Does this make all these guys gay now? (Jeez, that would be nice) Cause I know for a fact that they are not all gay. Straight guys also stare and look just as I would sometimes stare at a sexy girl in the gym. It’s called attractive and not attracted… Sounds like you have this idea that all guys that stares want to grab you, wake up man and get over yourself. Another thing, don’t promote yourself as straight acting, I have noticed over the years that it can be very offensive to some gay men… It’s like saying, I know all you queens want me… If you feel that they are all staring, stop thinking that they all want to grab you. Rather feel proud of yourself and enjoy the attention that you get. “I guess genuine confidence means being comfortable enough to take a compliment, even if it comes from outside of your target market.”. You think way too much of yourself, sure not arrogant….

]]> By: Tebza https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13481 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13481 Grt article! Nice 4 read! I gym at Houghton Virgin Active, I go through da same everyday; am a very str8 acting BI guy. These days I even avoid taking a shower at gym, or just undressing! Guys will be staring at me, I feel embarrasd. When am busy doing my weights, they stare…some come and say: ‘hi, nice tattoos’. Am not arrogant, but gay guys can b irritating sometimes. U go 2 da shower…they bhind u, steam…bhind u, loo…bhind u.

]]> By: Tebza https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13480 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13480 Grt article! Nice 4 read! I gym at Houghton Virgin Active, I go through da same everyday; am a very str8 acting BI guy. These days I even avoid taking a shower at gym, or just undressing! Guys will be staring at me, I feel embarrasd. When am busy doing my weights, they stare…some come and say: ‘hi, nice tattoos’. Am not arrogant, but gay guys can b irritating sometimes. U go 2 da shower…they bhind u, steam…bhind u, loo…bhind u.

]]> By: Rolando https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13479 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13479 Well-written. Thanks!

]]> By: Donovan https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13477 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13477 Well done Al….another great article!

]]> By: qtboy https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13475 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13475 hahahahaha this is good very good i agree 110% wit ya, speakin frm experience

]]> By: Anonymous https://www.mambaonline.com/2011/12/06/the-secret-allure-of-the-straight-man/#comment-13474 Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=15919#comment-13474 Great article! Thanks Al!

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