Comments on: SEX & THE CITY STAR: BEING LESBIAN WAS A CHOICE

By: Cerulean

Cerulean — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I think that her way of defining her bisexuality as being is cool, because with all the bi-phobia out there it she’s just taking a stand against it

By: Sang

Sang — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I’ve always found it ironic when the homosexual community imposes its own definition of sexuality and sexual orientation on others. Cynthia choses to define the origin of her sexual expression differently compared to how it has been commonly defined. To slam her for that is the equivalent to how the LGBTIQ community is judged by conservative heterosexuals. In an ideal world it wouldn’t matter if it was a choice or not. Unconditional acceptance is what the LGBTIQ community should strive to instill in the in society. The conservatives don’t care whether it is a choice or not. Their hatred is irrational to the extent that the logic of defining it as a choice escapes them.

By: Sang

Sang — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

By: observer_indi

observer_indi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I just wish people would get that there isn’t one answer that’s tailored to fit everyone. I wouldn’t deny that many people’s sexual orientation may be defined at birth. This doesn’t rule out that that it can be a choice. From this perspective I can’t see it as a standpoint that can be successfully attacked by the right wing(Not that it would discourage that particular mind set) merely because they could only attack those to whom this particular truth applies. Regardless of the reasons that bring us here though, what right does anyone have to judge.

By: clarity

clarity — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Our choices…. Our choices as human beings are what sets us apart from the animal kingdom. Our choices for human rights and equality are proof of this. I too kind of believe I chose to be lesbian. But that is such a taboo statement, and for many a point of judgement and segregation, that it is not often said. I do also understand the ‘lesbian choice’ many abused women make and if judging them is ok by you all I can say is… nothing really. My relationships with men were good and not abusive or unusually disfunctional, and I will forever admit that my first love was a man, but I feel I have moved past that. And even though I left a man for a woman, the latter relationship did not last. But that did not send me off hunting men again! I was very clearly fulfilled with a woman and knew very clearly that this is the path I want to follow. Not for anyone but me. So I also have a problem identifying with the any of the boxes and labels people use to define themselves. Such as Bi-sexual. I believe those restrict my growth as an evolving human being. This is my next step in my own evolution, and im not sure I can put a label on that.
I believe that there are also different facets within every community that exisits. Even though we all sit at the same fire, dont expect the stories to all be the same, and when we start expecting that, beware, for then we fall into the same trap as those who wish us harm.

By: mb

mb — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to jp. yep who gives a damn. It is how it is!

By: M

Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

There is something perverse about a person who is straight choosing to be lesbian/gay. It’s like a gay man “choosing” to be straight. It doens’t make sense to me, unless the person is bisexual. She may not like the term “bisexual” but I think it may be exactly the best word to describe her sexual orientation.

By: Wayne van Niekerk

Wayne van Niekerk — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I think you are missing the point . For me it was not a choice but if some people choose good for them if they choose a better lifestyle

By: Vampyre

Vampyre — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Being anything including hetro is not a choice. I think it was irresponsible of such a high powered celebrity to claim choice because she doesn’t like using the word bisexual. I have a few bisexual friends who are all against using that word for themselves. Them have a definite thing against being ‘labeled’ because when they are in a relationship with a guy they get to be hetro and when are in one with a girl get to be homo. And that fine if they don’t want to accept that they are bisexual. But it’s COMPLETELY wrong to start making claims for us who are actually homosexual. Being homosexual is NOT a choice!

By: Rolando

Rolando — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I agree that she’s confusing being bisexual with choosing to be gay or straight. She’s both, so she’s bi.. simple