Comments on: FORGETTING OUR COMING OUT

By: Marine Pina Urrtia

Marine Pina Urrtia — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

These are impressive articles. Keep up the sunny handiwork.

By: Jay

Jay — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to jp.

JP – Part of being an adult in the gay community is having respect for others, which is one of the biggest issues. Nobody has respect for anybody. It is called social responsibility…. pay it forward. If you ever truly loved or ever truly experienced despair, you would not make these kinds of idle commentary.

By: jp

jp — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

it is a piece of parsley writing. with no connection to reality. it is an episode of queer as folk badly transcribed and butt plugged into a south african context where it doesn’t sit well.

By: jp

jp — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

self acceptance sounds like a creative and cathartic death to me. also, how many wiser older homosexuals do you know? the inclination to suck dick is a natuaral one that requires no guiding hand, no fostering. the reason the writer of this is a semi decent human and a cacapble writer is that he didn’t have a gay uncle to truncate his indiivdual growth and avenue it into some lame mass homosexual ident.

By: jp

jp — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Pungpi. it is a piece of parsley writing. with no connection to reality. it is an episode of queer as folk badly transcribed and butt plugged into a south african context where it doesn't sit well.

By: Pungpi

Pungpi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to jp.

Looks like you need to get more sleep, skattie – this is a good article, if you could’ve stayed awake to read it.

By: Glamourboy

Glamourboy — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

The article is so true. We tend to just look at other young gay guys as just flapping queens, we forget that the queeness is just a phase & part of coming out, also we forget how hard it is as the article stated to jump out of the closet. We should be the support system for younger gay guys and guide them onto the right track.

By: jp

jp — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

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By: Alan

Alan — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Lovely insight as always Al, and I think something that is very topical. I tend to have very little patience for any closeted ‘friends’ in their mid-twenties and above. Having come out in my teenage years, when one has considerably less maturity, life experience and gutsy bravado, I often fail to understand how in the adult years these decisions aren’t easier. But I guess that’s the crux right there – it’s never an easy decision – no matter how old or ‘weathered’ you are. The solace is always found, I think, in connecting with someone in a similar position to you. When I came out at the tender age of 17, you were the only gay person I knew, and your support made the whole ordeal that much more bearable. You had already been out for a short while – but our similar situations and contexts meant that the experience (and what a traumatically beautiful experience it can be!) could be shared – more so that it could be shared with an older and wiser (and thus judgemental) queen. Hindsight can be a bitch – and in gay time that multiplies!

By: Indi

Indi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Thank you. Plenty of indirect insights glimmer here, from the point of view of one on the outside.