Andy, you make a good point there..and Derek…I’m so agreeing with you. As a traveler myself, I only visit countries where same sex is legalize..or where they are very gay friendly..

As for not going to anti-gay ports – it depends on the level of tolerence. If being gay is illegal , hell yeah. If it is tolerated and not illegal – the more gay people visit – the chances the more tolerent over time the people will become seeing same gay individuals and sex couples from all over the world.

On the other hand, even though sex is normal between consenting adults (regardless of their orientation) I’m sure people don’t want to see it, whether it’s hetero, gay or whatever. Not in public. The fact that it’s a gay cruise is irrelevant. Not being a prude, but there is time and place for everything. Even places where one can go and be a complete exhibitionist. But out in the open where everybody can see, whether they want to or not, is not cool in my opinion.
And don’t give me that crap of “just look the other way”. Trust me, you’ll want to look…whether it’s appreciated or disapproving. There’s also this ‘rebellious’ tendency among gay people that the more we show ‘them’ who we are by emphasising our SEXuality, the more we feel like activists and fighting for the cause. There are even porn sites dedicated to gay men having sex in public- with the perspective of “We’re here, we’re queer, and we’re going to screw right here”. I’d be put off by anyone having sex in a public place, if it’s not THAT type of public place. It’s not internalised homophobia or whatever, but, men, women, banana, be who you are, do what you do, but don’t push it down people’s throats… so to speak.

The rule should be simple; Do it. Do it much and as crazy as you’d like, but do it where and when it’s cool.