Comments on: WHAT’S IN A NUMBER?

By: Bushbanger

Bushbanger — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I lost count of how many cocks I sucked after my first few months living here…but I can count the number of guys I have had penetrative anal sex with….though it hovers around 30, what I always remember is the feeling of loneliness I used to feel after sex with some guys who were happy to use me as a sex object. Yes the magic number might be important but how you feel going into the deed and how you feel after the deed must count for something regardless of the number…happier well rounded individuals are much more likely to be loving and stable partners than those who ‘settle’ or ‘compromise’ out of the various concerns that plague us in the gay community – concerns about ageing, weight gain, loneliness, etc

By: Wayne van Niekerk

Wayne van Niekerk — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Look guys, calling each other names is defeatest.Before I met my partner I slept around, but then again I was very unhappy with my sexuality and didnt care if I lived or died. I thank God that both myself and partner are HIV negative despite the risks we took before we met.
After meeting we spent the next 6 years practicing safe sex. Then we were tested and found to be negative. In our 15 years we have been monogomous, happy, have a great sex life. It is in your interests to make your sex life as interesting as possible.
The point I am making is not to judge guys out there who sleep around. We are all different and searching for somthing. Fortunately, I found it in the most wonderful husband. Our bond is too precious to take chances with adding a 3rd party element and anyway, we love each other! We married on valentines day this year (yes , you can take out the barf bags!)

Wayne

By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Jakes. Are you serious? Please explain to me the reason for a high number other than the fact that someone is a whore?

By: Jakes

Jakes — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Zonke. Did you even read the article? The whole point is not to make assumptions. You dont know why someone has a high or low number. By making assumptions about that person if the number is high, chances are you are making some wrong assumptions. You seem to be thinking form 1 perspective.

By: Zonke

Zonke — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Barend each to his own, I was merely expressing my personal opinion, sex might just be sex to you, but to me it isn’t, rather an act to consummate a relationship. And it is precisely for that reason you mention on your second post, I want a man of great restrain, that I do not fall into the trappings of introducing a third party to stimulate our relationship as we have seen with most relationship. Unfortunately I do not believe someone who has been plagued wherever,whenever by whomever will be able to hold steady when it gets boring at home between the sheets, cuz definitely it will get boring at some point.

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Sam – you’re a real prude living in a world that doesn’t exist! What a bunch of crap. Why not ask a Guy how much money he has…huh? Now let’s stay out of that territory which is way more an issue in the Gay world than sex!

By: Barend

Barend — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Just one more thing, is it ok to go anto a site and have as much phone sex as you please, or would the partner be less pissed off if they actually go aout together and rack up the numbers??????????? It seems to me that in South Africa today, it is a rare site for two gay people to have a relationship without involving at least one other person

By: Barend

Barend — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

What a lot of bull dust Zonke, sex is sex, what does it matter how many times and whith whom I had it……..If you ask that question and you do no like the answer, you might just lose out on your potential life partner

By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

It seems you are trying to delude yourself into believing you’re not a whore when in fact you are one. No amount of semantics is going to change the fact that sleeping around makes you a whore. And pity on you for trying to give other whores reason to do the same.

By: Zonke

Zonke — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to GregoSA. For me the number is Important, it gives me an indication, as to how restrain and controlled one is, considering the sexual temptation, access and availability there is amongst gays, obviously a small number validates to me that, one is holding back sexual pleasure for something more, thus will also be willing to practice restrain once your relationship reaches its sexual peak,out of respect for you and your relationship. what we noticed is that sexually experienced individuals tend to get bored faster in a relationship compared to the inexperienced partner( teens and those new in this gay thing excused) The habitual behaviour of changing random partners becomes a behavioural pattern, which becomes a problem to the partner who is actually looking for a stable and a solid arrangement.