Comments on: MAKING SEX FUN AGAIN

By: Wayne van Niekerk

Wayne van Niekerk — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Xander, if that is what other gay guys have to deal with how do they enjoy having sex at all?
Also I notice a lack of one word. LOVE. Call me sentimental but is sex not also an expresssion of our love for our partner. I am VERY lucky in that I have a husband (now) who I met 15 years ago and we have great fun in the bedroom ( and other places of course). The big secret for us is to keep it fresh and interesting (and I am not talking fetishes here) Sometime just grab each other and fuck for the sake of sex, sometimes explore each other for a long time without going hell for leather. Sometimes make a day of it and just stay in bed and see if you can break your previous record. Sometimes be dangerous and be a little kinky, sometimes wake up in the middle of the night and do it half asleep and half awake. That can also be fun. I suppose we are lucky in that we are both HIV- and cannot become positive so there is no need for safe sex as we are monogomous. We are comfortable in us and our relationship. But to the single guys out there – have safe fun- and remember – being gay is a step up in the evolutionary process. We are not straights – we are better- dont ever forget that

By: Wayne van Niekerk

Wayne van Niekerk — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Wayne van Niekerk. Oh forgot my name in message

By: R

Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Wyane’s right I noticed th same thing The absense of Love. In the beginning of discovering ourselves we cram everthing we are in our closets especially our ability to love. During our impressionable moments ignorant straight (and gay) ppl may tell us “gay relationship aren’t actual relationships because in the end of the day it’s more of a phyical thing with guys. When you lose attraction you’ll find someone esle… That’s why it’s a sin”. I’m sure a lot of us have heard something like that before. Things like that can stick with u forever if U let them. This is one o the reasons most guys only do “NSA” or “FUN” cause deep down that’s all they think they’re worth. When most guys start feeling serious emotions they bolt sooner or later. This article tells u what cud b wrong wit u but very hollow advice. U might as well have said get over it, dat wudda saved time. Lets remember being gay can be lonely e.g. who do u talk to about this to when ur too scared of the very homophobia plauging U. We need more practical solutions to a much bigger problem here. How do we help those who can’t access the sites or contact OUT

By: really??

really?? — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

16.5cm is average? really? seriously?