By: BrownBear

BrownBear — Mon, 12 Sep 2016 12:34:59 +0000

Thanks for your article… What a handsome couple and big ups for putting yourselves out there 🙂
I’m Indian as well, in my 40’s and have been with my partner (white, late 50’s) for 16 years. We fight like “cats & dogs” but we love each other unconditionally. My story is similar to yours but eventually my family did come around and accept us as a couple.
This discrimination that we are faced with is like any other type of discrimination, i.e. people are afraid of “different”, afraid of losing / straying away of what they were instilled with; afraid of change, etc. and I guarantee that you yourself have something that you discriminate against. My point is, put yourself in their shoes and try to understand how they feel……our Indian culture is generally conservative but “conservativeness” varies from community to community, i.e. an Indian family from, let’s say Unit 9 Chatsworth as compared to family in Rylands, Cape Town DO surely have different levels of acceptance although religion and cultures are the same. People all over the world base their lives on what is socially acceptable to their community and family; a front page news article must have hit them so hard and enforced all the negative emotions.
I believe that the difference is due to community and social pressures of the current time and eventually with time people will slowly start embracing change, damn, I see old aunties and grannies in Chatsworth Centre on their smart phones, wearing western brand clothes, eating western food, etc. communities are changing, so try to look at the bigger picture, do you really want to lose / write off your family because they haven’t been exposed to such lifestyles? What example are you setting for the children of your family / extended family? What if your nephew is gay, who will help him in your family? You guys have set a great example by declaring your love for each other publicly, I am sure that you have inspired many that are stuck in the closet, NOW, do the same for your family, help them see that love has no boundaries.
Please DO NOT give up on your FAMILY, they will come around.

By: Pravesh Hurdeen Singh

Pravesh Hurdeen Singh — Thu, 08 Sep 2016 21:11:05 +0000

Hello
Thanks for your frankness
Although on the flip side there are many 50plus ppl who are respectful of gay ppl. In a Hindu Social Activist who pushes the boundaries. Let’s join forces and help other gay friends on w/ a 0844910886. Tnx

By: Johannes

Johannes — Thu, 08 Sep 2016 09:48:48 +0000

This is raw and emotional – it’s like reading my own life story.

By: Kaye

Kaye — Wed, 07 Sep 2016 17:26:02 +0000

Absolutely honest!

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