Comments on: Self-loathing? | Most gay men say they’re turned off by femme guys https://www.mambaonline.com/2017/11/10/self-loathing-gay-men-say-theyre-turned-off-femme-guys/ South Africa's leading LGBTQ news and community platform Mon, 13 Nov 2017 15:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Meny https://www.mambaonline.com/2017/11/10/self-loathing-gay-men-say-theyre-turned-off-femme-guys/#comment-1064747 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 15:00:00 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=78470#comment-1064747 I don’t loathe myself. I like masculine guys and I like being my genuine manly self. The rest is bullsh!t. Femme guys should do the same: just be yourself, no matter where you are on the gender spectrum. Treat everyone with respect, be genuine and sincere, and you’ll get it back in the same measure. Live and let live.
I think that when most gay men say they don’t like femme guys, they are probably thinking about the loud, over the top, nasty, negative, bitchy types who try to put other people down all the time. It’s all an act. The reason we don’t like these particular femmes is because they’re just nasty. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re insecure about our masculinity.

]]> By: Richard https://www.mambaonline.com/2017/11/10/self-loathing-gay-men-say-theyre-turned-off-femme-guys/#comment-1064733 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 06:53:18 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=78470#comment-1064733 It is two fold. Who you want to be romantically in love with (your personal choice) , and if you accept the fact that there is “femme” gay men.
“Acceptance” can be a gray area though. You can “accept” the fact that there is gay “femme” men, but you despise them. Which is wrong to me. No problem if your personal choice in men are those who are “masculine’ but I do have a problem with a gay man who looks down, and outright nasty towards “femme” men. You are no better than a bigoted racist towards persons of color.
We cry for acceptance from the larger “straight” community, We preach diversity, but within our own large diverse gay community, we discriminate left and right. It’s sickening.

]]> By: TEIKOKU https://www.mambaonline.com/2017/11/10/self-loathing-gay-men-say-theyre-turned-off-femme-guys/#comment-1064633 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 18:56:35 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=78470#comment-1064633 Heterosexual women love masculinity in men because most of them are naturally attracted to that trait; why then are homosexual men continuously made feel shame for also being attracted to masculinity?

What kind of men do you think effeminate gay men are after? Other effeminaTe men? No; Masculine men? YES.

]]> By: Jon https://www.mambaonline.com/2017/11/10/self-loathing-gay-men-say-theyre-turned-off-femme-guys/#comment-1064556 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 20:56:37 +0000 https://www.mambaonline.com/?p=78470#comment-1064556 Not sure I understand this article. Are you saying there is something wrong with men who like men who act like men?

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