Comments on: ARE WE LESBOPHOBES?

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Jordi. Response. Well done you have the right idea.....

There is a place for every one you just have to find your spot.

I am a gay man and i have no problem with anyone so long as they have found there spot and know who they are!!!! Do you???? once you do these thing just pass bey.

By: Shellee-Kim

Shellee-Kim — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to love_n_care.

too close for comfort?. In an ideal world of humans without issues, gay people would have no need to be offensive/defensive with each other…would they? Subsequently no such experiences would exist. And therefore not warrant writing about. But we don’t yet live in an ideal world…
My ‘personal experience’ is my reality –as yours is for you. Except mine also happens to be shared by other women, too! And the stuff that then needs exploring. Incidentally, one of the closest people to me in my life left to live overseas several years – he was a magnificent human being…and a gay male!

By: nector

nector — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

.... Car les jolis pingouins
Ont tr?s peur des pingouines
Et les vilaines pingouines
D?testent les pingouins

Juliette Greco

By: love_n_care

love_n_care — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

This seems a bit harsh. This article seems a bit harsh…
and sterotypical…
as if all of us.. gay people and lesbians dont have enough rubbish to deal with from the straight community? we now have problems of our own?
I will agree that gay people and lesbians.. maybe.. are a bit more hostile than hetrosexual people, but does that not seem a natural reaction from the “burden” we’ve had to keep? it could be a reason as to why some are insecure (as the article said) or bitchy?
So because there have been a few spats between the girls and the boys… its now a major issue? and we are the bad ones?
Maybe its people adding to the idea that we hate each other…*ahem*.. that makes the situation worse…
i have a lesbian friend and she and I get on extremly well, proving this article to be based on personal experiences… not reality..
Sigh……
Cant we all just get along ^.^?

By: Ikhona

Ikhona — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

misogyny…. My problem with most lesbians that I have met and socialised with , is that they quickly assume a ‘dominant’ role when around gay men, as if I have now become less of a man by being gay. I would accept it though with a pinch of salt, had that attitude been from a straight edible man…

By: rudi

rudi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Hate-hater love -lover we all are in the same road of just tryin to be ourselves. Both men and women in the gay community should rather look at the person and noy what they wearing, looklike or what is fucking boring in your mind.

Yes I am a gay man have mixed friends women , men gay and straight and sometimes gay men are just so bitchy and the girls try to be the best butch man you can find I now of a lot of gay men and women that say I do not like lesbians and the women that say I do not like gay guys you now what they have problems with themselves they have never respected love themselves that is why they can not stand the other.

One thing girls and boys should now is girls boys will always bemore men than you ever could be and guys the girls will always be more girl than you ever be so let as just give everyone his/her place in the sun. See the person not the sex

we are so call proud about or lifes

By: distraction

distraction — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to hsm. hate the hate, not the hater. I totally agree with you. My friends are pretty mixed with regards to their sexuality, race and gender. But there are still a lot of bigots out there. Just because you are part of an oppressed group, it does not automatically mean that you aren't capable of oppressing in turn.

By: hsm

hsm — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

In reply to Dem. its all about who you like... . Even though I have also experienced a few nasty gay men, I have also experienced a few nasty lesbians, and I am a lesbian! These are just nasty people. Nothing to do with their sexuality. Surely!?

Oddly enough, I have a few straight men friends! I have a few lesbian friends and a couple of hettie women friends too. I love them all for who they are and the value they add to my life.
Surely, this is more about who they are as people and their values than who they sleep with.

By: Jordi

Jordi — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Tit-4-tat!!!. We all succumb to the temptation of presenting ourselves as victims of other people’s insensitivity toward our “differentness”. So some queen made an insensitive remark towards a lesbian. Big deal! I , a gay man, have also been treated that way by a lesbian couple at a bar in Mellville. They just wouldn’t stop complaining about how many “moffies” there were there that night and then proceeded to insult a more feminine looking young guy (who looked about 19 years old) because of the colourful clothes he wore.
I only dislike those lesbians who think that they are more “MAN” than I am and who trat me as though I am somehow inferior to them. Most lesbians I have met, and the one I work with every day, have a special place in my heart because of their warmth and genuineness. Its just such a pity there are a few rotten moffies and dykes who just refuse to get along. Maybe we should just send them off to Antarctica so that we can live in peace.

By: Hman85

Hman85 — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Riiiiggghhhhht.... As a gay man, I found this article quite annoying to read. I could also generalise about the 'bull-dykes' who give you filthy looks as you innocently chat with their girlfriends, or the lipsticks who barely acknowledge your existence when amongst their chick friends.

Out of my 'close' female friends, two are lesbian, one is bisexual and the last is straight and I certainly don't feel the need to hold some kind of power over any of them.

The anecdotes in this piece are also quite subversive. What's to say that the gay guy at the 'mostly moffie' gathering isn't simply a crude bastard who enjoys shock value amongst ALL genders? Why hadn't lesbian event organisers made a greater effort to participate at the Pink Loerie festival?

Both gays and lesbians need to take their heads out of their asses and stop looking for a reason to hate each other. I'm also sick of the gay-elitist attitudes that the 'pink' community has towards straight people, but that's another topic.