Opinion: Let’s not be “sies”- gender
As a teenager, I often presented as a girl, because I had a baby face and the art school I attended allowed me to grow a long blonde bob. I did it for various reasons. I was a very late developer and I got asked for my ID a lot less in clubs and bars […]
Sexual health: Coping with barebacking peer pressure
Barebacking (condomless sex) still happens – a lot. This is even though most of us know that it is a huge risk for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. It STILL happens. This is not because guys are stupid or suicidal or necessarily out to maliciously “infect” one another (most guys who transmit the virus […]
Close, but no cigar – Finding intimacy again when you’re newly single
I was lucky. Our break-up was sad and emotional, but we both emerged from the severing with a lot of love and mutual respect. We didn’t have the drama of grudges and anger and campaigning against one another to our mutual friends about what “actually” happened. We both knew that the relationship was no longer […]
Sex vs. Intimacy – Grabbing a shag when a hug would do
It’s not unusual to hear a guy say something like: “Damn, it’s been too long since I last had sex!” But can you remember ever hearing someone lamenting the fact that they needed to be touched? Or that they were aching for some affection after too long a period of going without any? You may […]
Health: Getting testy
Standing on Seapoint Main road in Cape Town has many connotations. More than a decade ago, my friend and I were doing just that, but it was daytime and the sex workers we’d come to know quite well had long since gone home for the day. We were there to get HIV tests. We’d heard […]
French Letters and Chocolate Hearts
Despite being the shortest month of the year, February can be a testy one for many of us. This is because, if you’re single, the 14th of February can seem like a hungry mosquito whose imminent and no doubt aggravating arrival cannot be stopped. Valentine’s Day practically spits glitter into the single gay man’s eye. […]
HEALTH: WARTS ‘N ALL
“Look, I’m not a perfect person. I have my warts. I sometimes say things that get me in trouble. I wear suits that are cheap. But I say what I think and I believe what I say, and I’m willing to say things that are not popular but ordinary people know are right.” – Howard […]
HEALTH: ORAL EXAM
“She thinks fellatio is a character in Shakespeare” – Cherry Falls (2000). Just how much do you really know about the ancient practice of oral sex, more specifically, the delicate art of fellatio? Fellatio or fellation, also known as a blowjob (BJ), giving head or sucking off, is the act of using your mouth or […]
IN PRAISE OF STRAIGHT MEN
Writer and actor Bruce Little (a.k.a. ‘the straight whisperer’) thanks all the straight men – from mechanics to his brother and father – who’ve challenged stereotypes and made his life that much better.
PREY
In the midst of rumours of an online serial killer stalking gay men in Johannesburg, Bruce J. Little finds himself the victim of a dating fraudster and his own illusions and feelings of inadequacy.