‘Homophobic’ tweet by Loyiso Bala to his brother is heartbreaking


Loyiso Bala (Pic: Twitter)

A birthday tweet by singer Loyiso Bala to his brother has been condemned as an example of the often seemingly subtle but devastating homophobia of religious intolerance.

On Sunday, Loyiso wished his younger brother Phelo – who is dating TV and social media star Moshe Ndiki – happy birthday with a tweet that he perhaps intended to be heartwarming but instead revealed a hard truth.

“Blessed to have spent some quality time with my brother @PheloBala the past few weeks. As I said to him, ‘I’m in no position to judge u but to love you and to always point you to Christ. Your relationship with him will define your life’s purpose,‘” Loyiso tweeted.

While we don’t have absolute confirmation that he was referring to Phelo’s sexuality, it’s something that’s been widely assumed on social media, and that Loyiso has not corrected.

Many Christians believe that because they themselves do not directly condemn gay people but rather do so passively-aggressively though their God, this absolves them of responsibility. It’s a “get out of jail free card” way of expressing homophobia under the protection of religious beliefs. It’s being a bigot but not taking responsibility for it by stating that it is something for ‘God to judge’. It’s the coward’s way of being a homophobe.

It’s clear that Loyiso, like many other ‘good Christians’, doesn’t get it. After the outrage about the tweet went viral and started trending, he continued to defend his comment and even expressed surprise that others were offended by it. He still failed to deny that it was about Phelo’s sexuality.

Phelo himself has yet to call out his brother. In fact, he thanked him for the tweet; for his “love and leadership…” and for, “above all, letting me be.”

This conditional and ambiguous ‘acceptance’ that many of us face daily from our friends, family and society is a deeply hurtful form of judgment. Sadly, we are more often than not willing to accept this kind of ‘tolerance’ from our loved ones because it seems better than outright rejection.

If he was indeed referring to Phelo’s sexuality, Loyiso should be deeply ashamed for wishing his brother a happy birthday while simultaneously telling him that he will be judged by God because of who he loves. I would hope that my brother would instead speak out against a belief system that sees his sibling as a sinner and a lesser person simply for being gay.

Happy birthday Phelo – may you continue to love and live without judgment.

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