Queer life | Mourning the end of a friendship
As queer people, often living our lives far from our families, we tend to make friendships that ultimately come to resemble family.
Motlatsi Motseoile | Yearning for family
“The past few months have been a reminder of our mortality.” Motlatsi Motseoile writes about his longing, as a single gay man, to become a dad.
Gay dating | Facing the demons that prevent us from finding love
Gay dating is hard enough thanks to homophobia and heteronormativity, so why do we make it even harder, asks Motlatsi Motseoile.
Motlatsi Motseoile | What does IDAHOBIT mean to me?
As we mark IDAHOBIT, the past few weeks have been filled with trauma and conversations about our safety as queer people in South Africa.
Opinion | Would I be me, if I wasn’t gay?
Motlatsi Motseoile writes about how being gay left him with no choice but to be excellent so as to be heard, respected and afforded the space to exist.
Gay life | What it’s like being the other man
Whatever the real or perceived morality of being in an extramarital affair, these relationships continue to happen. So what’s it like being the “other man?, asks”
Opinion | Let 2021 be the year of enlightened and shame-free queer sex
Motlatsi Motseoile hopes that in this new year we’ll normalise talking about and enjoying enlightened and shame-free queer sexuality.
Opinion | Do queer celebrities owe us good role modelling?
Should queer celebrities like Somizi Mhlongo be expected to be role models or are we demanding too much from public figures?
Opinion | Would Simon Nkoli be proud of where we are today?
As we celebrate Pride in South Africa, Motlatsi Motseoile reflects on the memory of Simon Nkoli; one of the figures behind the first Pride march in Africa.
Gay dating | Reflecting on our love lives during lockdown
The dramatic impact of the lockdown on our social lives has led to many discussions about reassessing the nature and face of dating, especially among gay men.