Author Archive

Gay dating | A man is a man is a man, right?: Men come in varied sexualities and identities, so why should cisgender gay men only date other cisgender gay men, asks Motlatsi Motseoile.
Gay dating | Can we hope for intimacy and commitment?: As I recently left the home of yet another man I’d met on the yellow app, I wondered if this is all there is for us. Does intimacy exist in this era of let’s meet for momentary pleasure?
Opinion | Bottoms on top and tops who bottom: We owe it to ourselves to explore what sex can be for us as gay men. We should be limited only by our desires and imagination, not stereotypes about tops and bottoms.
Opinion | Should we have straight friends?: My childhood best friend and I broke up when I was 20. We broke up, silently, because I discovered that - even though she ‘loved me as a person’ - she didn’t like the fact that I am gay.
Online dating | Can we find love?: Meeting people online is the norm these days. But is online dating about looking for love or just moving from one guy to the next in a quest for momentary sexual pleasure?
Opinion | Who’s your R. Kelly? And did you survive him?: As the world is outraged by details of R. Kelly's alleged abuse of young women, Motlatsi Motseoile asks why so few queer boys and men come forward with their own stories of sexual assault.
Opinion | How do we start healing in the New Year?: As LGBTQ South Africans we experience the double whammy of fractured race relations and the trauma we face for being queer. It is time for healing.
Opinion | The not so festive season for the queers: For many young South African queers, the festive season can be a tough time, alienated from family and feeling lonely and rejected, writes Motlatsi Motseoile.
Opinion | Do we ever really stop coming out?: As the world marks International Coming Out Day on Thursday, Motlatsi Motseoile questions if coming out should be demanded of all queer people.
Gay relationships | My pleasure, as a bottom, matters: “I am here, and my pleasure matters.” Motlatsi Motseoile explores the intricacies